just in time for Halloween--a real life horror story
Okay so I was watching TV tonight after I got home from work...and I was watching lifetime (I know, scary enough) and there was this movie on called The Pregnancy Pact.
Terrifying.
It is exactly what it sounds like. It was a movie about four high school sophomores in some po-dunk little town in Massachutses, I think, who actually made a promise to each other that they would all get knocked up. Not that eventually they would fall in love and get married and then do it. Not that they would do it after college. Not that they would even do it with boys that they were currently in semi-commited relationships with. Nope. These girls honestly just decided to get fucking knocked up in their second year of high school!
And this wasn't it...in that school year alone 18 girls got pregnant...the high school has a fucking day care center in it! And yet...the community is pussy footing around with letting the school teach some sort of preventative education. No free condoms there!! Now that just blows my mind...if you have a day care center in your HIGH SCHOOL you have a PROBLEM! And that problem is that your kids are having sex and not protecting themselves. You CANNOT stop kids from having sex! At the age, hormones are going crazy and it just feels good. Now I myself have actually pretty good self control (don't laugh). Because guess what? I did not have actual intercourse during high school because I didn't want to get pregnant. And I never understood how some people said "well one thing led to another and then it just happened" Unless you are being forced, sex does not just "happen". Clothes have to be taken off, or at least adjusted. A penis enters a vagina...these are conscious things...I know when there's a penis in my vagina!
I am completely pro prevention, in case you didn't notice. Abstinence to me sounds boring. I personally don't want to wait until marriage because I'm not even sure marriage is right for me. Abstinence is also harder...it creates tension. Your kid is not going to want to talk to you about sex, pregnancy, and STDs if he/she thinks that you're going to be mad at him/her. Also hypocritical. Neither one of my parents was a virgin when they got married. I think my grandmother may have been. But that was a long time ago and she's a lot younger than most women getting married are now. And abstinence just pushes our divorce rates up because if there are two virgins in bed together, how do you know they are a good fit? Now in some relationships this can be okay. Some people don't put sex high on their priority list. It doesn't matter if they don't mesh in the bedroom because I've come to understand that not everyone is sexually driven. Abstinence might work for these people. It does not work for me. In fact, if I don't get laid often enough I am cranky. Most of my friends (and exes) can contest to this. But guess what? I'm fucking safe. I'm on birth control. Condoms are used. Regular STD testing. These should all be covered in high school. Personally I think middle school. I understand that a lot of parents would have an issue with giving out condoms to their 12 year old...I agree. But they should know about them. They should know about pregnancy. They especially should know about STDs. Middle school is the beginning of puberty...I had my first kiss and touched my first penis in middle school. And I knew about AIDS but only because Magic Johnson had it but I didn't know who that was so I didn't care. Still...education works best. Maybe if they were better educated there wouldn't be so many fucktards on yahoo answers asking if they are pregnant if they had unprotected sex and he pulled out but maybe some got in... to whcih i generally say well if you're not pregnant better get tested. way to go.
Oh, back to the movie:
Also these underaged pregnant monstrosities not only smoked but drank during their pregnancies. Now none of that is legal...why don't people press charges? Just to make a point, even. Because they could get nailed for statutory rape (depending on state laws), underaged drinking/smoking, and endangerment of not one, but two minors! Crazy.
Now I make it no secret that I don't like kids. I don't like babies. I don't plan to have them. If it happens...well we'll cross that road though hopefully not. I am vaguely pro-choice but personally pro-life. but if i ever get knocked up I would not drink or smoke. It'd try not to be around second hand smoke. I'd take better care of myself food-wise. Because guess what? For nine months my body is not just my own. I'm sharing it with another person, I'm housing another life. I may not be mother material and I accept that. But I would never intentionally harm my unborn child because that's what drinking/smoking while pregnant does. It has been proven a million times over to be fucking bad for babies. Deformities, birth defects, retardation, brain damage, later life issues...not drinking and laying off the fatty foods for nine months to save someone from a LIFETIME of pain? Not that high of a price.
I'm all caught up in this now...pumped but still horrified.