sorry, I dont know how to cut this.
I know this is odd for me to post at all, let alone without it being a friend’s only post, but here it is. I need advice, but first a little bit of background.
My grandmother had three kids by my grandfather. She divorced him and had twins by another husband. Then after divorcing him, she was forced to work 2 jobs to support herself and her kids and ended up sending the twin girls to live with her twin sister, my Aunt Dorothy. Aunt Dorothy is a spinster. The girls ended up being as close to her as they were their mother. They are perhaps the only people that Aunt Dorothy was nice to. When I was in high school I caused a huge rift in my family. I was the evil daughter who left her mom to live with her dad. Of course, everyone in my family agreed I was better off living with my dad, but I still hurt my mom, so lots of people were mad at me. However, lets keep this all in perspective… that was 15 years ago!
A few years after I moved in with my dad, my Grandma died from lung cancer. My Aunt still acts as if I am scum. Well, here comes the part that upsets me. My grandfather calls me to tell me that Aunt Dorothy is in the hospital with cancer and that she is in very bad shape. They are really just making her as comfortable as possible. Now, I am not dumb, but I decided to go and show my support for the girls since they are my aunts also, and one of them is so totally the woman I idolized as a girl. I knew that Aunt Dorothy wouldn’t be overjoyed to see me, but I really didn’t expect or want to see her. I wanted to just see the twins. Well, I go to the hospital and both the girls were there. I said hi to Aunt Dorothy, who was perfectly cold and then I went to sit in a room off of her room that had a couch and chair in it for family members. One of my aunts came in there with me and we talked for a few minutes about Aunt Dorothy’s condition and other little things. Then, after about 10 minutes, my other aunt came into the sitting area and said that she thought I should leave. Apparently my presence was disturbing to Aunt Dorothy. She wanted to know how long I was going to sit in there and chat. Then, upon leaving, she didn’t even want to really acknowledge me. So, even when she is lying on her proverbial deathbed, she still won’t give an inch. She’s unbelievable.
I don’t know why, but I left that room barely able to contain myself until I was in the hall. I was totally snubbed by a woman I have done nothing too personally, ever. But I cant tell if it was that snub or the fact that the aunt I had longed to see and console is the one who asked me to leave. I know I shouldn’t take any of it too personally, but I did and I do.
I am trying to process this as an adult and a Christian. I know I should pray for her. I am just so lost.
Any suggestions?
My grandmother had three kids by my grandfather. She divorced him and had twins by another husband. Then after divorcing him, she was forced to work 2 jobs to support herself and her kids and ended up sending the twin girls to live with her twin sister, my Aunt Dorothy. Aunt Dorothy is a spinster. The girls ended up being as close to her as they were their mother. They are perhaps the only people that Aunt Dorothy was nice to. When I was in high school I caused a huge rift in my family. I was the evil daughter who left her mom to live with her dad. Of course, everyone in my family agreed I was better off living with my dad, but I still hurt my mom, so lots of people were mad at me. However, lets keep this all in perspective… that was 15 years ago!
A few years after I moved in with my dad, my Grandma died from lung cancer. My Aunt still acts as if I am scum. Well, here comes the part that upsets me. My grandfather calls me to tell me that Aunt Dorothy is in the hospital with cancer and that she is in very bad shape. They are really just making her as comfortable as possible. Now, I am not dumb, but I decided to go and show my support for the girls since they are my aunts also, and one of them is so totally the woman I idolized as a girl. I knew that Aunt Dorothy wouldn’t be overjoyed to see me, but I really didn’t expect or want to see her. I wanted to just see the twins. Well, I go to the hospital and both the girls were there. I said hi to Aunt Dorothy, who was perfectly cold and then I went to sit in a room off of her room that had a couch and chair in it for family members. One of my aunts came in there with me and we talked for a few minutes about Aunt Dorothy’s condition and other little things. Then, after about 10 minutes, my other aunt came into the sitting area and said that she thought I should leave. Apparently my presence was disturbing to Aunt Dorothy. She wanted to know how long I was going to sit in there and chat. Then, upon leaving, she didn’t even want to really acknowledge me. So, even when she is lying on her proverbial deathbed, she still won’t give an inch. She’s unbelievable.
I don’t know why, but I left that room barely able to contain myself until I was in the hall. I was totally snubbed by a woman I have done nothing too personally, ever. But I cant tell if it was that snub or the fact that the aunt I had longed to see and console is the one who asked me to leave. I know I shouldn’t take any of it too personally, but I did and I do.
I am trying to process this as an adult and a Christian. I know I should pray for her. I am just so lost.
Any suggestions?