Things are A-changin'...
Okay - so the quick and concise.
The husband and I are separated (just not on paper), and yes, getting divorced. We'll be doing it on our own, electing to hammer out the details between us and without lawyers. We have time... this isn't some crazy, windmill number that needs to be wrapped up in 90 days.
In an effort to meet our economical and scheduling needs (work travel, navy travel, my new job) as well as the best continuity for the girls... we are currently remaining in our family home as room mates. We have our own rooms and have recently established this new way of living. Later we'll change over to a bi-nuclear structure, but when is TBD. The girls will remain with me when that occurs and I'm (even now) the primary parent, responsible for their day-to-day stuff.
Please know, my friends, that he and I remain close friends... as well as family by choice (Cousins, maybe? LOL). We've been married almost 20 years and are not willing to toss the friendship out the window. We aren't talking "smack" about one another to folks, bad-mouthing around our children and such. Just not our style. Do things get tense or emotional? Sure... we're human and new at this. But for the record, things have been happening for months and we choose not to say anything to most folks, even on those inevitable "bad" days. We weren't trying to leave folks out. Rather preserve our privacy... and minimizing the drama, if you will .
So you will still see us together from time to time, as friends and co-parents.
Thank you in advance for your support, and if desired, congratulations. I am really working to stay away from the traditional responses to this sort of situation.
Oh - and my new job? Really excellent... think it's working out great!
Lisa/Elisabeth
The husband and I are separated (just not on paper), and yes, getting divorced. We'll be doing it on our own, electing to hammer out the details between us and without lawyers. We have time... this isn't some crazy, windmill number that needs to be wrapped up in 90 days.
In an effort to meet our economical and scheduling needs (work travel, navy travel, my new job) as well as the best continuity for the girls... we are currently remaining in our family home as room mates. We have our own rooms and have recently established this new way of living. Later we'll change over to a bi-nuclear structure, but when is TBD. The girls will remain with me when that occurs and I'm (even now) the primary parent, responsible for their day-to-day stuff.
Please know, my friends, that he and I remain close friends... as well as family by choice (Cousins, maybe? LOL). We've been married almost 20 years and are not willing to toss the friendship out the window. We aren't talking "smack" about one another to folks, bad-mouthing around our children and such. Just not our style. Do things get tense or emotional? Sure... we're human and new at this. But for the record, things have been happening for months and we choose not to say anything to most folks, even on those inevitable "bad" days. We weren't trying to leave folks out. Rather preserve our privacy... and minimizing the drama, if you will .
So you will still see us together from time to time, as friends and co-parents.
Thank you in advance for your support, and if desired, congratulations. I am really working to stay away from the traditional responses to this sort of situation.
Oh - and my new job? Really excellent... think it's working out great!
Lisa/Elisabeth