Great comment--it's obvious that we're on the same wavelength here. I'm especially intrigued by your last statement:
I try to imagine what others perceive, especially those who love me, when they look at me through kinder eyes. I want to see what they see.
I've thought about this at length. I started thinking about the whole "I want to see myself, for just a minute, through someone else's eyes" but then I realized that what you say about "kinder" eyes is very crucial. I've met people who I initially thought were unattractive, physically speaking, but over time their personality made them very attractive. The net result was that I could no longer objectively look at them and find them unattractive; I could no longer separate the physical from the emotional. Does that make sense? It's like those parents you see who have really ugly babies and they just can't see it. And never will. The point, and I think this is what you were alluding to, is that even though we have one face, it is viewed differently by everyone who sees it. It makes me wonder if some people see me as the person I saw reflected in the tinted window of my car...
I try to imagine what others perceive, especially those who love me, when they look at me through kinder eyes. I want to see what they see.
I've thought about this at length. I started thinking about the whole "I want to see myself, for just a minute, through someone else's eyes" but then I realized that what you say about "kinder" eyes is very crucial. I've met people who I initially thought were unattractive, physically speaking, but over time their personality made them very attractive. The net result was that I could no longer objectively look at them and find them unattractive; I could no longer separate the physical from the emotional. Does that make sense? It's like those parents you see who have really ugly babies and they just can't see it. And never will. The point, and I think this is what you were alluding to, is that even though we have one face, it is viewed differently by everyone who sees it. It makes me wonder if some people see me as the person I saw reflected in the tinted window of my car...
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