on my relationship with lj, etc.

[elf]

at a party on saturday i was accused of never writing here, which is by-and-large true, save for coordination posts and things that i keep for myself. as catherine noted (at that same event), even when i used to bother to write something here it tended to be rather cryptic anyway.

Comments

[standby_go]

Alison, you've articulated (so well) how a lot of us single post-TJ folks feel like as we attempt to "date" as adults. The whole "scene" just seems incredibly surreal/fake. Every person I've met online and then gone on a "date" with has led to disappointment. I have to wonder if we get more selective as we get older, or if folks who meet when they're younger are more willing to adapt themselves to those they find intriguing. Did they "settle?" Should I be more willing to do so? The quest for Mr./Mrs. Right seems unreal at this point. We're stubborn, opinionated, self-confident, and driven people at this stage in life. It's hard to find others whose bullshit we're willing to tolerate, and even harder to find those willing to put up with our own. Alas, alack!

[badmagic]

Disappointing as in "no chemistry" or as in "not the same person as they were online?"

[badmagic]

I hadn't intended to guilt you into posting. My comment was more in the nature of "peevish complaint" than "criticism." You seem to be an interesting person, but one whose life intersects mine at just about no points. If I was going to learn anything more about you, it would have to be through LJ. I could just ask, but phone calls from relative strangers saying "So, tell me all about your life" would be disturbing.

For someone with nothing to say, you touch on some interesting points.

On work: I'd actually like to hear about this. I graduated with an M.S. in Conservation Biology, but never made a good living at saving the world. You seem to have been able to manage that, and I'd like to know how you did it.

On politics: the general quality of the press coverage of this campaign is just benthic, low enough to swim in the lightless seas with the really ugly fish. If a candidate starts spouting nonsense, I think it's actually helpful to point it out. Most people are pretty trusting, or at least assume that someone will say something

[warewolf]

Thanks for the update. I've felt rather disconnected from a large number of my friends lately, and this was a welcome update from you :)

For the record, I would enjoy hearing more about your work, and where you think it's going.

[faffers]

it's nice to see you post.

i don't think you should worry about posting things that people don't find interesting, but if you don't feel like writing is a priority, that's entirely your choice.

[airncbuh]

anonymity in the virtual world is difficult as your sphere of friend increases. there has to be a balance between what other pressure to know about you and what you feel comfortable sharing. As I learn more about myself, the more confident I become. The fect that it took me this long is a different story.
on work: I guess my coworkers will have to do for conversation. Oh well.
I'm right there with you on the political campaigns. I usually rationalize what my desires/expectations are and then track people's actions. However, neither party has really reached the tipping point for me. The Karl-Rovian behavior of the Republicans is only showing the unwillingness to focus on the issues and the Democrats have as yet to really win me over. That may be partially attributed to my brother though....
As far as dating, I have no advice. no relevent experience either. Although I would imagine I will be jumping into the deep end of the pool at some point of time.