Hmm good point; Even though it's not sex, it's still a sexually-charged activity. I wouldn't consider doing the whole feeder thing with someone I weren't able to be involved with (i.e., a married person!).
As for "coming out", I've only done that with a couple of girls I've been with. Why not more? Well, probably because in many other cases, the relationship wasn't at the point yet where we could share intimate details. I mean, would you share your innermost secrets with someone you've been dating for two weeks? I didn't think so. But if I were dating someone for a while, and I felt very comfortable around her, I'd tell her. I would only expect her to do the same.
So, all you feeders and feedees out there, if your partner doesn't now about your 'kink', you might want to let him/her know! But for goodness sake, be tactful about it! Don't just come right out and say: "I like feeding and fattening up women" or something like that. Just explain your feelings and desires. Chances are, your significant other will understand. Maybe even indulge in your fantasies, who knows!
Well, about explaining to your partner, there's a good page on this that helps people outside the fetish understand where we're coming from. http://www.deviantdesires.com/map/fas.html
This site reports on many different rare (and not so rare) fetishes and explains them in ways that people outside the fetish can understand. I know I learned more about different fetishes I didn't get before. It's apparently there to accompany a book called Deviant Desires (which I wish I had... human sexuality is one of my major academic interests).
Anyway, this should help people come out to their partners.
As for "coming out", I've only done that with a couple of girls I've been with. Why not more? Well, probably because in many other cases, the relationship wasn't at the point yet where we could share intimate details. I mean, would you share your innermost secrets with someone you've been dating for two weeks? I didn't think so. But if I were dating someone for a while, and I felt very comfortable around her, I'd tell her. I would only expect her to do the same.
So, all you feeders and feedees out there, if your partner doesn't now about your 'kink', you might want to let him/her know! But for goodness sake, be tactful about it! Don't just come right out and say: "I like feeding and fattening up women" or something like that. Just explain your feelings and desires. Chances are, your significant other will understand. Maybe even indulge in your fantasies, who knows!
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Oh, back to the post.
Well, about explaining to your partner, there's a good page on this that helps people outside the fetish understand where we're coming from. http://www.deviantdesires.com/map/fas.html
This site reports on many different rare (and not so rare) fetishes and explains them in ways that people outside the fetish can understand. I know I learned more about different fetishes I didn't get before. It's apparently there to accompany a book called Deviant Desires (which I wish I had... human sexuality is one of my major academic interests).
Anyway, this should help people come out to their partners.
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Interesting page... I'm going to show that to more people. Also, Wikipedia has a good article on feederism... It's very non-biased and informative.
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