a thought
Got quite worked up and ranty (in my head) on the streetcar while considering moonlightjoy's post from yesterday. It's locked so I won't quote, but I would be willing to bet cash money that every woman out there has at one time or another gone through some variant of the following:
MAN: Hi.
WOMAN: Hi.
MAN: Come over here and talk to me.
WOMAN (smiles politely): No thanks.
MAN: Why not?
WOMAN: I don't want to.
MAN: You don't have to be such a bitch about it. I was just being nice.
WOMAN (who has been properly socialized): *feels guilty, wonders for the next several hours how she could have handled the situation better*
This is not the correct response. The correct response, for next time, is "Hey buddy, you are a complete stranger. What makes you so sure that your random claim on my time and attention is more important than whatever I want to be doing?"
Or "I am not a public service, and I don't care what you think of me."
Or even "No, you were not just being nice. You want to see me being a bitch about it? Fuck off."
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Aside from that, how's everyone's morning?
MAN: Hi.
WOMAN: Hi.
MAN: Come over here and talk to me.
WOMAN (smiles politely): No thanks.
MAN: Why not?
WOMAN: I don't want to.
MAN: You don't have to be such a bitch about it. I was just being nice.
WOMAN (who has been properly socialized): *feels guilty, wonders for the next several hours how she could have handled the situation better*
This is not the correct response. The correct response, for next time, is "Hey buddy, you are a complete stranger. What makes you so sure that your random claim on my time and attention is more important than whatever I want to be doing?"
Or "I am not a public service, and I don't care what you think of me."
Or even "No, you were not just being nice. You want to see me being a bitch about it? Fuck off."
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Aside from that, how's everyone's morning?