(weather, mom and caa, garden, coe)

[elainegrey]

Met with my sister in the morning and had a meeting to make plans about making progress with our lives and in particular with helping our parents. I explained conditions of enoughness to her and we shared a few and documented them. We will meet Wednesday while my folks are out of the house to do start removing stuff: Dad wants to have the house

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[elainegrey]

It's a term i learned from Jennifer Louden's "Satisfaction Finder" (which i bought in 2011, oh my). It's a slight variation on goal setting for one's personal life.

Take the "standard" goal setting rules: a goal should be specific, measurable, realistic, and time-bound. I want to get all my sprouted beans and my seedlings in the garden SOON. That's fairly specific and measurable, but "soon" isn't a clear time and depending on how i define soon, it's more or less realistic.

What the "condition of enoughness" defined that really spoke to me was when setting this personal goal, my understanding of "realistic" should take into account an average day. Not a day where i put daily things off or don't account for the fact that "things come up." Set this one goal to be something i can DEFINITELY get done even if the cat pees on the bed or i have to help family with something urgent or i am exhausted by work. (Or tornado warnings and thunderstorms.)

And then there is the additional practice of being satisfied with myself: i got this one daily goal DONE. Yay, me. So i didn't get everything i wanted to do done, but instead of beating myself up for that, i celebrate getting the goal met. It was enough.

[wanderingmogwai]

That sounds very wise. I'm now wondering f if I could start doing something similar. So you reccomend that book?

[elainegrey]

The Satisfaction Finder program costs $40+ and.... eh, if procrastination is a significant issue for you ... maybe? You might want to read some of her website https://jenniferlouden.com/conditions-of-enoughness/ and see if her tone suits. I was at a particularly hard point when i found it and it was worth it then. I am still working with similar concepts now and it's probably more a issue of putting the energy into making changes (thinking about what i _want_ instead of feeling driven by what i _should_, etc) than reading more books. 8)

I was also able to find her "The Life Organizer : A Woman's Guide to a Mindful Year" in eBooks available via my library; you might find resources in a less expensive format.