horrible horrible horrible drama
You know when something really shitty happens to people that you have just argued with you feel extra shitty?
So I just confronted my cousins the other day to see if they still had the strong & hurtful opinions about me & the BF that they had said last November when all of the house/business deals went out the window.
The wife claimed that she never meant those things & couldn't remember even saying them. Great. Fine. Whatever. I'm so exhausted with arguing that I could care less, even though I know that its bull shit. I just want everyone to be cool.
So the cousin says that he still thinks that they have "done no wrong" and he feels justified in saying those things and having those opinions. He says that he won't bring his opinions up with our extended family, but if anyone asks him -he'll pretty much slam me.
Thats nice. What a jerk. Despite calling them out about criticizing some of my friends lifestyles while being great friends with people that live exactly the same one. I'm still waaaaaaaaaay wrong apparently, yeah sure.
Wait, I forgot they are self-richeous and can do no wrong. Ok thanks now I remember everything!
Whatever. I know my role in this, I've said mean things and done mean things, all outside of my normal character.
But EVERYTHING was in response to mean uncalled for statements and actions that were said about me and my BF first. And HUGE financial investments that my parents made taken away at free will by these "chameleons" or "lottery winners" to best describe them. EVERY action or statement of mine has been a DIRECT response to theirs! And I was pushed to the limit.
But on top of all of the tensions, I do see them every day and they are great parents, and my cousin is very creative, and I've said that to many people many times.
So as I spend the day with the BF's family and play with baby M in the pool, my cousins were going through great trauma.
Apparently the wife felt ill or not right & hadn't felt the baby move. She is seven months pregnant. The doctor heard no heart beat & set them strait to emergency. The baby had died. And now they had to induce labor that could take up to 12 hours to deliver.
How horrible is that ?
How HORRIBLE is that?
So I go to my aunts and visit with other cousins that are in town from Hong Kong and everyone is just down and I couldn't hold back the tears. How horrible is that!?
Its amazing with all of the idiots procreating worldwide that healthy people like this have problems. The wife was a health nut, organic everything -food, chemicals, super in shape and still teaching yoga during the pregnancy.
But homeless people and sick starving people can have healthy babies.
Its so hard to understand. Its impossible to understand!
And on top of everything I feel like an extra asshole because 24 hours prior I'm having a tense discussion/arguement with them. GREAT. Now I'm the asshole.
But when telling a close friend that knows our entire business deal --as shitty as it sounds-- she points out (and having miscarried herself within the year but at 3 months) that afterwords sometimes people are depressed, or angry or looking for something to blame. When only nature is to blame. She says to "watch my back" because this is a prime opportunity for people to point the finger at me. And this house deal is a huge deal with a lot of money tied up in it, that feeling sorry for people can quickly make you get taken advantage of... as horrible as that is to say. She says its a terrible thing, but business is different and just make sure they don't use this to guilt you into more financial gain for them.
GREAT.
I feel terrible for what happened to them & can't imagine what they are going through.
Maybe my friend was being paranoid or just looking out for me, I don't know.
But either way I'm terrified for what is yet to come!
So I just confronted my cousins the other day to see if they still had the strong & hurtful opinions about me & the BF that they had said last November when all of the house/business deals went out the window.
The wife claimed that she never meant those things & couldn't remember even saying them. Great. Fine. Whatever. I'm so exhausted with arguing that I could care less, even though I know that its bull shit. I just want everyone to be cool.
So the cousin says that he still thinks that they have "done no wrong" and he feels justified in saying those things and having those opinions. He says that he won't bring his opinions up with our extended family, but if anyone asks him -he'll pretty much slam me.
Thats nice. What a jerk. Despite calling them out about criticizing some of my friends lifestyles while being great friends with people that live exactly the same one. I'm still waaaaaaaaaay wrong apparently, yeah sure.
Wait, I forgot they are self-richeous and can do no wrong. Ok thanks now I remember everything!
Whatever. I know my role in this, I've said mean things and done mean things, all outside of my normal character.
But EVERYTHING was in response to mean uncalled for statements and actions that were said about me and my BF first. And HUGE financial investments that my parents made taken away at free will by these "chameleons" or "lottery winners" to best describe them. EVERY action or statement of mine has been a DIRECT response to theirs! And I was pushed to the limit.
But on top of all of the tensions, I do see them every day and they are great parents, and my cousin is very creative, and I've said that to many people many times.
So as I spend the day with the BF's family and play with baby M in the pool, my cousins were going through great trauma.
Apparently the wife felt ill or not right & hadn't felt the baby move. She is seven months pregnant. The doctor heard no heart beat & set them strait to emergency. The baby had died. And now they had to induce labor that could take up to 12 hours to deliver.
How horrible is that ?
How HORRIBLE is that?
So I go to my aunts and visit with other cousins that are in town from Hong Kong and everyone is just down and I couldn't hold back the tears. How horrible is that!?
Its amazing with all of the idiots procreating worldwide that healthy people like this have problems. The wife was a health nut, organic everything -food, chemicals, super in shape and still teaching yoga during the pregnancy.
But homeless people and sick starving people can have healthy babies.
Its so hard to understand. Its impossible to understand!
And on top of everything I feel like an extra asshole because 24 hours prior I'm having a tense discussion/arguement with them. GREAT. Now I'm the asshole.
But when telling a close friend that knows our entire business deal --as shitty as it sounds-- she points out (and having miscarried herself within the year but at 3 months) that afterwords sometimes people are depressed, or angry or looking for something to blame. When only nature is to blame. She says to "watch my back" because this is a prime opportunity for people to point the finger at me. And this house deal is a huge deal with a lot of money tied up in it, that feeling sorry for people can quickly make you get taken advantage of... as horrible as that is to say. She says its a terrible thing, but business is different and just make sure they don't use this to guilt you into more financial gain for them.
GREAT.
I feel terrible for what happened to them & can't imagine what they are going through.
Maybe my friend was being paranoid or just looking out for me, I don't know.
But either way I'm terrified for what is yet to come!