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Back at my second home now...I still need to finish my laundry and unpacking, but we're making progress. Slowly but surely.
After this, I need to actually FINISH MY HOMEWORK. NOW DEAR.
I just had some thoughts, a while ago, about what it means to be in love. I know I'm not much of an authority. I know I don't know much. I know I haven't lived a very long time. But these thoughts. They just happen sometimes.
Anyway, I've been thinking about my relationship, and I've been thinking about relationships I've seen my friends in, when I realized something: I know people always say they can't help who they fall in love with, but I've come to believe love is in fact about choice. I know some people would argue against that, so I have a feeling this mostly applies to me. BUT.
I've come to the conclusion it's about WANTING to be with a person, not NEEDING to be with a person. Being needy like that strikes me as unhealthy. Because at the end of the day, I know what my life would be like if that person weren't there: I'd pick myself up and continue as normal. But I want them to be there, and that makes all the difference. I don't need. But I do want, and like any want, I can control it. To me that is a sign of a stronger relationship.
There's pros and cons to being with someone, and there's pros and cons to being single.
I think being in a relationship is changing, but not quite as earth-shattering spiritually changing as media likes to portray it. It's much more quiet. Subtle.
Life is so weird.
After this, I need to actually FINISH MY HOMEWORK. NOW DEAR.
I just had some thoughts, a while ago, about what it means to be in love. I know I'm not much of an authority. I know I don't know much. I know I haven't lived a very long time. But these thoughts. They just happen sometimes.
Anyway, I've been thinking about my relationship, and I've been thinking about relationships I've seen my friends in, when I realized something: I know people always say they can't help who they fall in love with, but I've come to believe love is in fact about choice. I know some people would argue against that, so I have a feeling this mostly applies to me. BUT.
I've come to the conclusion it's about WANTING to be with a person, not NEEDING to be with a person. Being needy like that strikes me as unhealthy. Because at the end of the day, I know what my life would be like if that person weren't there: I'd pick myself up and continue as normal. But I want them to be there, and that makes all the difference. I don't need. But I do want, and like any want, I can control it. To me that is a sign of a stronger relationship.
There's pros and cons to being with someone, and there's pros and cons to being single.
I think being in a relationship is changing, but not quite as earth-shattering spiritually changing as media likes to portray it. It's much more quiet. Subtle.
Life is so weird.