Introducing new friends and 'potential 'boyfriends' to lolita

[hutchy_cheese]

I've been wearing lolita for quite some time now but as I've made new friends etc out of lolita, I'm wondering how to 'break the ice' so to speak. I've worn lolita once but that was to the cinema (Avengers! Woo!) and that was in the dark and wasn't overly lolita.
I love wearing bitter sweet style, which might be too much for friends to take.
Am I right in think, 'just screw the rules' and go all out? Or is working subtly a better approach?