The love that lasts the longest is the one that is never returned....
I read that somewhere in a book where it was meant to be a famous quote written by a famous man. It sounds very romantic, unrequited love and all that. However in most cases I find it's not really about the love or object of love that is driving a person to love them, but just how safe the non-relationship can be.
Loving someone who doesn't love you back takes the guesswork out of the whole love thing. You never have to stay up all night waiting for a phone call or wondering if they're thinking about you because you already know that they are most definitely not doing anything of the sort. There are no games, you know exactly where you stand in their eyes, either as a non-person, not even registering in their life or as just a friend, a fuck buddy, whatever. Most importantly, there is never a feeling of dissapointment. Your lover who doesn't love you will never dissapoint you because you already know that you love them no matter what, and that they don't feel the same way. There are no unpleasant surprises like being cheated on or finding out they're really an asshole as each carefully constructed mask is peeled away by that magical wonderful thing called being together with someone waaaay too long. Maybe they'll get married and if you're in the friends zone you'll be invited to the wedding, but that isn't a surprise either because if they weren't going to marry you ever in a million years, then of course they'll marry some other dumbass.
Some people may contest that there is a deep depression and longing for the object of desire involved in such non-relationships. But even that can have its perks. Depression can motivate one to take up more hobbies to get their mind off of their own tempting suicide, and also to have meaningless relationships with other people that they don't really care about that would never turn into something serious, leaving them free to love who they want and still be physically entertained. And, as most people and healthcare professionals will tell you about pain, the longer you endure it the more your body gets used to it. Sometimes you won't even know it's there.
Loving someone who doesn't love you back is the safest, most comfortable relationship you'll ever be in. In a way, it's like a relationship that you start 20 years in, after all the fake is gone and it's just the truth as it is, unfair, ugly, but dignified. Isn't that what everyone really wants when they say, "I don't want to die alone"?
In conclusion, America, stop trying to fall in love with people who will love you back, and stop trying to win over people who don't love you. Lovers will betray and dissapoint you, and so will trying to win one. Just keep on loving who you want and accept that they'll never feel the same way and you will soon be in the most free, secure, and predictable relationship of your entire exsistence. Doesn't everyone like a little security?
Loving someone who doesn't love you back takes the guesswork out of the whole love thing. You never have to stay up all night waiting for a phone call or wondering if they're thinking about you because you already know that they are most definitely not doing anything of the sort. There are no games, you know exactly where you stand in their eyes, either as a non-person, not even registering in their life or as just a friend, a fuck buddy, whatever. Most importantly, there is never a feeling of dissapointment. Your lover who doesn't love you will never dissapoint you because you already know that you love them no matter what, and that they don't feel the same way. There are no unpleasant surprises like being cheated on or finding out they're really an asshole as each carefully constructed mask is peeled away by that magical wonderful thing called being together with someone waaaay too long. Maybe they'll get married and if you're in the friends zone you'll be invited to the wedding, but that isn't a surprise either because if they weren't going to marry you ever in a million years, then of course they'll marry some other dumbass.
Some people may contest that there is a deep depression and longing for the object of desire involved in such non-relationships. But even that can have its perks. Depression can motivate one to take up more hobbies to get their mind off of their own tempting suicide, and also to have meaningless relationships with other people that they don't really care about that would never turn into something serious, leaving them free to love who they want and still be physically entertained. And, as most people and healthcare professionals will tell you about pain, the longer you endure it the more your body gets used to it. Sometimes you won't even know it's there.
Loving someone who doesn't love you back is the safest, most comfortable relationship you'll ever be in. In a way, it's like a relationship that you start 20 years in, after all the fake is gone and it's just the truth as it is, unfair, ugly, but dignified. Isn't that what everyone really wants when they say, "I don't want to die alone"?
In conclusion, America, stop trying to fall in love with people who will love you back, and stop trying to win over people who don't love you. Lovers will betray and dissapoint you, and so will trying to win one. Just keep on loving who you want and accept that they'll never feel the same way and you will soon be in the most free, secure, and predictable relationship of your entire exsistence. Doesn't everyone like a little security?