of love and shadows
I will never understand this need of people to seek happiness in another person, to expect someone else to complete them, to make them whole. If you are not happy with yourself, by yourself, you will never find happiness with another person, only disappointment. People yearn for that someone who will heal all wounds, fulfill all needs, be their happily ever after. And they grasp onto their partner, depending on them for their happiness without ever trying to figure out how to make their own lives better.
Give up the illusions, burn out the neediness and fix yourself first. This is not as difficult as it may sound.
There are so many lonely people out there.
“The only obsession everyone wants: ‘love.’ People think that in falling in love they make themselves whole? The Platonic union of souls? I think otherwise. I think you’re whole before you begin. And the love fractures you. You’re whole, and then you’re cracked open.”
--Philip Roth, The Dying Animal
Give up the illusions, burn out the neediness and fix yourself first. This is not as difficult as it may sound.
There are so many lonely people out there.
“The only obsession everyone wants: ‘love.’ People think that in falling in love they make themselves whole? The Platonic union of souls? I think otherwise. I think you’re whole before you begin. And the love fractures you. You’re whole, and then you’re cracked open.”
--Philip Roth, The Dying Animal