[Under the Cut] Message Me If
~ you have something of substance to say.
If it's just hello, you're pretty and nothing more than that, don't expect a reply. I'm an introvert, which means I can't stand small talk. If it's aimless, save yourself the trouble. Something about me caught your eye, now it's your turn to catch mine.
It's a bad sign if I have to ask if you wanted to discuss something in particular.
Write with honesty, purpose and intent.
You'll have better luck if you can tell me why you like my looks, why you contacted me and what your intentions are. Or even better, a cool geeky topic, say, kung fu movies. We're burning daylight.
Same rules apply on Facebook. Please be pleasant and civil. Act contrary to that and pop go the claws.
You can send me a friend request, but make sure you:
~ you aren't freaked by the stuff sitting on my LJ.
If you are, please don't waste energy starting something worthwhile that then has to end. I've buried too many relationships in my life already and loss takes a great toll on me (in lifelong recovery from serious abandonment issues).
~ Caveats:
~ Nifty tangents--
If it's just hello, you're pretty and nothing more than that, don't expect a reply. I'm an introvert, which means I can't stand small talk. If it's aimless, save yourself the trouble. Something about me caught your eye, now it's your turn to catch mine.
It's a bad sign if I have to ask if you wanted to discuss something in particular.
Write with honesty, purpose and intent.
You'll have better luck if you can tell me why you like my looks, why you contacted me and what your intentions are. Or even better, a cool geeky topic, say, kung fu movies. We're burning daylight.
Same rules apply on Facebook. Please be pleasant and civil. Act contrary to that and pop go the claws.
You can send me a friend request, but make sure you:
- send a message identifying yourself
(I check the Other folder) - state your purpose in making contact
- conduct yourself honorably in public posts
~ you aren't freaked by the stuff sitting on my LJ.
If you are, please don't waste energy starting something worthwhile that then has to end. I've buried too many relationships in my life already and loss takes a great toll on me (in lifelong recovery from serious abandonment issues).
~ Caveats:
- not looking for casual sex, not a casual person
(I get attached; debunked assumptions about oxytocin) - heavy use of abbreviation (how r u 2nite) annoys me; I feel it's wasting my time
why would I risk mingling genetic material with someone who can't be bothered to spell a three letter word? - verbal abuse, racial slurs, etc. will be reported
- certain nights are reserved for special people
(i.e. berating me for being preoccupied on Sat won't get you on my good side)
~ Nifty tangents--
- I've been on OKC since the beginning (2003) and joined LiveJournal around the same time
- did you know OKC built their own web server?
- story behind the name