i found this note at my workplace
To reach this plateau ones self confidence has to be so ingrained that you should just exude sex. The key is to not be cocky but very confident. There is a fine line, poeple sometimes can't find the happy medium. You must be able to balance the bravado you are going to have to have with a humility and fortitude so that you don't look like a cocky prick. Dont get me worng you can be a cocky prick and sometimes that works if done properly but the problem with this approach is that you have to be this way all the time and your chances of finding anything meaningful are slim to none. However while keeping the balance between confident and cocky you become someone who people look up to. What i mean by this is that you are in complete control of yourself. This relates back to what i wrote earlier about how people flock and want to surround themselves with strong "leader" type personalities, so they feel like they can gain insight or feel better about themselves as well. With keeping this approach you can still find a meaningful relationship that will benefit you as well. I say this because the opposite sex isn't all about sex.