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Can you please tell me the things I do to ask for trouble? Can you tell me how all the bad things in my life are my fault. I'm totally serious. I'd like that, because at least I'd feel I could do something about it. It seems that lots of other people that whine on LJ (no one on my friends list, really) just can't imagine why bad things happen to them or why they deserve them, and I can think of a usually few reasons. I know they don't really want to hear that, though, because they like feeling like the victim and just wallowing. I just really want to feel that I have some control of my life. I also want to be a good person. I really try to be a person that I like, even if it means being someone I don't like being. So yeah, if I'm asking for or deserving of bad things that happen to me, please let me know.
Oh, and I should tell you that I usually know the obvious. I know what I want in a relationship makes me unlikely to find a relationship that feels right and unlikely to be really happy in anything healthy.* I'm working on that and staying out of anything serious in the meantime. If you happen to have recovered from this, please let me know how you managed to help yourself have and enjoy healthy relationships.
*This has nothing to do with structure/arrangement/format, really. It's the other stuff, the connection stuff.
Oh, and I should tell you that I usually know the obvious. I know what I want in a relationship makes me unlikely to find a relationship that feels right and unlikely to be really happy in anything healthy.* I'm working on that and staying out of anything serious in the meantime. If you happen to have recovered from this, please let me know how you managed to help yourself have and enjoy healthy relationships.
*This has nothing to do with structure/arrangement/format, really. It's the other stuff, the connection stuff.