What is the usual cycle of your loves, i.e. infatuation - lust - boredom?
I usually get crushes on people pretty quickly, before I even know much about them. If we end up dating, I actually calm down for a little while -- still infatuated, but happy just to hang out with them. When things get more sexual I become fascinated again, this time wanting to spend as much time in bed together as possible.
About three months from when I first sleep with someone, I can see them and not *always* want to have sex again right there. (Unless it was awful, which has only really happened with one person.) Sometimes that lasts longer than we're otherwise compatible for, which is painful.
Maybe eight months after I start dating someone, I get used to having them around and start having to make sure I don't take them for granted.
I've never dated someone so long that I seriously lost interest in sex with them. It seemed like it was on the verge of happening in my two longest relationships prior to this one, but in both cases the fear of breaking up seems to have caused us to start having amazing sex. (Which held us together for a few weeks in one case, and another 24 hours in the other case.)
[I deleted the original comment and just quoted it in my response because it wasn't anonymous -- not that I suspect the poster cared about that, but I said I'd leave the questions anonymous, so I'm sticking with that.]
I usually get crushes on people pretty quickly, before I even know much about them. If we end up dating, I actually calm down for a little while -- still infatuated, but happy just to hang out with them. When things get more sexual I become fascinated again, this time wanting to spend as much time in bed together as possible.
About three months from when I first sleep with someone, I can see them and not *always* want to have sex again right there. (Unless it was awful, which has only really happened with one person.) Sometimes that lasts longer than we're otherwise compatible for, which is painful.
Maybe eight months after I start dating someone, I get used to having them around and start having to make sure I don't take them for granted.
I've never dated someone so long that I seriously lost interest in sex with them. It seemed like it was on the verge of happening in my two longest relationships prior to this one, but in both cases the fear of breaking up seems to have caused us to start having amazing sex. (Which held us together for a few weeks in one case, and another 24 hours in the other case.)
[I deleted the original comment and just quoted it in my response because it wasn't anonymous -- not that I suspect the poster cared about that, but I said I'd leave the questions anonymous, so I'm sticking with that.]
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