BUKKIT
Trust is like a bucket.
Due to our inability to fully envision and comprehend people's nature, we can only really rely on our observations of how they treat things which are important to us, which can include causes, agendas, plans, other people who are important to us, and almost always us specifically, of course.
Trust doesn't come in big batches. Grand gestures don't create trust. Grand gestures are like trying to fill the bucket with a fire hose: It looks really impressive at first, but without follow through, it tends to leave the bucket more empty than when you started.
Trust comes in little drops at a time, from repeated and reliable behavior. It fills that bucket. When the bucket's full, someone's proved themselves to be trustworthy with our most sensitive subjects.
You can't fill the bucket quickly, but you can EMPTY it at a remarkable rate. Jostling that bucket with actions that demonstrate a lack of concern for our sensitive subjects,or our an inability to show concern for them, spills that bucket in an uncomfortable way. REALLY screwing up knocks the bucket right over.
In closing:
I HAS A BUKKIT
NOOO DEY BE TAKIN MY BUKKIT
Due to our inability to fully envision and comprehend people's nature, we can only really rely on our observations of how they treat things which are important to us, which can include causes, agendas, plans, other people who are important to us, and almost always us specifically, of course.
Trust doesn't come in big batches. Grand gestures don't create trust. Grand gestures are like trying to fill the bucket with a fire hose: It looks really impressive at first, but without follow through, it tends to leave the bucket more empty than when you started.
Trust comes in little drops at a time, from repeated and reliable behavior. It fills that bucket. When the bucket's full, someone's proved themselves to be trustworthy with our most sensitive subjects.
You can't fill the bucket quickly, but you can EMPTY it at a remarkable rate. Jostling that bucket with actions that demonstrate a lack of concern for our sensitive subjects,or our an inability to show concern for them, spills that bucket in an uncomfortable way. REALLY screwing up knocks the bucket right over.
In closing:
I HAS A BUKKIT
NOOO DEY BE TAKIN MY BUKKIT