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I never got to make that bitch post I wrote about, but I guess now works.
So not long after my last post, I got a call from Rich, who works for Pizza Hut, asking me to come in for an interview. When I came back to Frederick for the interview I found out that my basement had some flooding (not TOO serious, but the carpet of around 1/4 of the basement was soaking wet). It was decided it was time to get rid of the carpet entirely since it's not the first time there's been a leak and there's likely mold in the carpet/padding somewhere and such. So I've since moved upstairs...to a couch, since all other bedrooms are taken. As of today, I'm still in a couch, it's been over two months.
So anyway, I got the job at Pizza Hut, I am a delivery driver / shift manager, depending on what Rich needs me to be. I work at the new Urbana store, which opened 3 weeks ago and is the busiest store of the 9 Rich's boss Tom runs. So now that I'm getting paid, I can actually pay rent on a regular basis now, as opposed to just occasionally giving all my temp job / holiday money to my mother. My mother demanded $300/month, and I started paying this month, even though technically I have no room and am just sleeping on a couch in an area with no doors (privacy).
I've seen Amber very little, I think 3 trips to see her in the last 2 months, one trip consisted of me moving her out of her house to a friends house at 2am to escape her brother who has a violent rage of a temper and gets angry at small things.
I was thinking about buying a new TV, the last on my short list of "must buy soon after I get a job" since I have a smartphone (necessary as a driver) and have the components to build Amber a new computer near me. My mother calls to tell me there's another one of my loans to pay off, so not to spend my money, so I don't. I started looking into her finances, bank account, mortgage, my student loan, etc. to see how things are. I come up with a solution: I'll pay her $600/month, willing to pay more for additional payments down the line, if she pays off that final loan OR makes an extra mortgage payment or two OR refinances the loan to a better bank (screw Bank of America and the bank we both use for our checking accounts has a better loan deal as far as I can see) and lets Amber move in. That's double my rent and more.
She says that I never do anything around here and that I just mooch. But for years she has been nothing but money to me. She doesn't cook for me, clean for me, do laundry for me, I do all of those things myself. The only thing she's done for me the last few years is provide the roof over my head and pay utilities and such, which are very important, but her argument is that I do nothing and just mooch, when I fully take care of myself and now I am even paying rent.
I try to work with her, I cook for everyone on occasion (though I do that more only when Amber is around), I fetch meals whenever I'm around (fast food stuff), I mow the lawn (which I did today) and I ask nothing of her other than the base agreement of her allowing me to stay in the house that we've had for years. But she isn't willing to sit down and discuss things with a clear head. She won't budge, she won't hear me out, nothing.
I concocted an alternative plan a few weeks ago to move into my fathers condo (since he doesn't live there anymore, but it's not worthwhile to sell it in this market). He says it needs a lot of work before it is habitable. So I say I'll save up the money to get it fixed up, then I'll pay you some of the rent for it. From his point of view, he doesn't need to pay to fix up his place and he'll get an extra $500/month or so, but something seems to be stopping him from agreeing to this. I don't know what.
All I know is that I am trying hard to find a good deal, within my family, that helps out all parties involved. But no one wants to work with me and/or help me.
So not long after my last post, I got a call from Rich, who works for Pizza Hut, asking me to come in for an interview. When I came back to Frederick for the interview I found out that my basement had some flooding (not TOO serious, but the carpet of around 1/4 of the basement was soaking wet). It was decided it was time to get rid of the carpet entirely since it's not the first time there's been a leak and there's likely mold in the carpet/padding somewhere and such. So I've since moved upstairs...to a couch, since all other bedrooms are taken. As of today, I'm still in a couch, it's been over two months.
So anyway, I got the job at Pizza Hut, I am a delivery driver / shift manager, depending on what Rich needs me to be. I work at the new Urbana store, which opened 3 weeks ago and is the busiest store of the 9 Rich's boss Tom runs. So now that I'm getting paid, I can actually pay rent on a regular basis now, as opposed to just occasionally giving all my temp job / holiday money to my mother. My mother demanded $300/month, and I started paying this month, even though technically I have no room and am just sleeping on a couch in an area with no doors (privacy).
I've seen Amber very little, I think 3 trips to see her in the last 2 months, one trip consisted of me moving her out of her house to a friends house at 2am to escape her brother who has a violent rage of a temper and gets angry at small things.
I was thinking about buying a new TV, the last on my short list of "must buy soon after I get a job" since I have a smartphone (necessary as a driver) and have the components to build Amber a new computer near me. My mother calls to tell me there's another one of my loans to pay off, so not to spend my money, so I don't. I started looking into her finances, bank account, mortgage, my student loan, etc. to see how things are. I come up with a solution: I'll pay her $600/month, willing to pay more for additional payments down the line, if she pays off that final loan OR makes an extra mortgage payment or two OR refinances the loan to a better bank (screw Bank of America and the bank we both use for our checking accounts has a better loan deal as far as I can see) and lets Amber move in. That's double my rent and more.
She says that I never do anything around here and that I just mooch. But for years she has been nothing but money to me. She doesn't cook for me, clean for me, do laundry for me, I do all of those things myself. The only thing she's done for me the last few years is provide the roof over my head and pay utilities and such, which are very important, but her argument is that I do nothing and just mooch, when I fully take care of myself and now I am even paying rent.
I try to work with her, I cook for everyone on occasion (though I do that more only when Amber is around), I fetch meals whenever I'm around (fast food stuff), I mow the lawn (which I did today) and I ask nothing of her other than the base agreement of her allowing me to stay in the house that we've had for years. But she isn't willing to sit down and discuss things with a clear head. She won't budge, she won't hear me out, nothing.
I concocted an alternative plan a few weeks ago to move into my fathers condo (since he doesn't live there anymore, but it's not worthwhile to sell it in this market). He says it needs a lot of work before it is habitable. So I say I'll save up the money to get it fixed up, then I'll pay you some of the rent for it. From his point of view, he doesn't need to pay to fix up his place and he'll get an extra $500/month or so, but something seems to be stopping him from agreeing to this. I don't know what.
All I know is that I am trying hard to find a good deal, within my family, that helps out all parties involved. But no one wants to work with me and/or help me.