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So I'm long overdue for an update.
Firstly, mother has "grounded" me again. Amber is not allowed over, anytime I run an errand for her I have to pay her the change back in full and I hardly even get to run errands. She doesn't buy food for me, nor does she cook dinner for me. Surely this is the best way to motivate someone to get a job, starve them and rob them of any joy. This means I have absolutely no money, nor income of any sort, unless I find a job, and have to eat bad food while attempting to return to running and losing weight. Recipe for success for sure.
Secondly, I returned to FFXI in my MMOing. WoW without friends is worthless, Rift was a reskinned WoW with nothing that really interested me and FFXI has all sorts of nostalgia, combined with old friends and most importantly, Amber's computer can run it. So it's something we can do together.
Thirdly, my friend is in all sorts of troubles. And this is what really made me come to post.
To start off, he's gay and an exclusive top, I used to be VERY anti-gay because I spent my high school around Church people. This weakened over time, but even when I met this guy I would argue/debate him about things, how he felt, how things worked, etc. His father is a Preacher, and he never came out to them either because he lives in the south on top of it all, so they wouldn't ever accept that about him.
One thing my friend routinely did was look for casual hookups for sex online, various websites and such, just throw on a condom and they're safe and all that. I wasn't a huge fan of this, but I'm not going to stop him from doing this or anything so oh well. Anyway, a few months ago he hooked up with a guy through craigslist. A week later, another guy hooked up with the same guy...and got caught doing it in a public parking lot somewhere. And then it turns out the guy on the receiving end is...15. After questioning the 15 year old also told about having sex with my friend. Even though it was the 15 year old posting the Craigslist ad looking for sex and my friend and the other guy responding to it.
But both of them are being charged with statutory rape. My friend lost his job immediately after news broke out, had his computer confiscated by police and had to be bailed out of jail by his parents (who got to find out their son was gay and not a standup Christian through a rape charge) and moved in with them during this whole ordeal as he could not afford to stay in his place with no job.
Fast forward a few months:
1) He still doesn't have his computer back from the police, it's been nearly 6 months.
2) He's still without a job, because he's kinda famous for being a guy who raped a kid!
3) His parents are kicking him out because he's "not trying hard enough to be Christian"
Now for 1) This is just stupid. It does not take that long to scan a computer for what you need. He only has internet access through his phone which is certainly subpar for being able to look for jobs as well as any hope of trying to get his mind off of stuff.
For 2) What happened to "Innocent until proven guilty", America? His face was plastered all over the news and it was even made to sound like he just picked up some random kid from a playground and raped him. THE 15 YEAR OLD WAS ASKING FOR SEX, THERE WAS NO ADVANTAGE TAKEN HERE. As well, my friend did not know the guy was 15. And if you know anything about guys, you know there are plenty of 15 year olds who look "legal".
And 3) Thank you for showing Christs love to your son, Mr. Preacher! My friend has no money and cannot afford to stay any place, but he's getting kicked out while he's even more hard pressed than nearly anyone to be able to acquire a job. The trial isn't until October, so there's no chance he can get his name cleared for another few months.
This whole situation is stupid. The speed at which everything going is absurd. His entire life has been moved to a complete halt because someone else fooled him. He may get his life ruined for it. And that other guy who got caught? He's in medical school and graduated from an Ivy League college. Neither of these guys are terrible people, they're getting screwed for screwing the wrong person and their lives are just up in the air during this time. I would go absolutely bonkers in this situation. If I had my computer, I could at least ignore the stress half of the time, but he's got very little to do and almost nothing going for him to get his life back on track...for months! And he's a gay man on trial for statutory rape in the south, even with the facts he doesn't have a whole lot of a chance to be cleared, he might be going to jail for years for this.
There's little reason for me to complain about my life when people are getting screwed over by life far me than I ever will.
Firstly, mother has "grounded" me again. Amber is not allowed over, anytime I run an errand for her I have to pay her the change back in full and I hardly even get to run errands. She doesn't buy food for me, nor does she cook dinner for me. Surely this is the best way to motivate someone to get a job, starve them and rob them of any joy. This means I have absolutely no money, nor income of any sort, unless I find a job, and have to eat bad food while attempting to return to running and losing weight. Recipe for success for sure.
Secondly, I returned to FFXI in my MMOing. WoW without friends is worthless, Rift was a reskinned WoW with nothing that really interested me and FFXI has all sorts of nostalgia, combined with old friends and most importantly, Amber's computer can run it. So it's something we can do together.
Thirdly, my friend is in all sorts of troubles. And this is what really made me come to post.
To start off, he's gay and an exclusive top, I used to be VERY anti-gay because I spent my high school around Church people. This weakened over time, but even when I met this guy I would argue/debate him about things, how he felt, how things worked, etc. His father is a Preacher, and he never came out to them either because he lives in the south on top of it all, so they wouldn't ever accept that about him.
One thing my friend routinely did was look for casual hookups for sex online, various websites and such, just throw on a condom and they're safe and all that. I wasn't a huge fan of this, but I'm not going to stop him from doing this or anything so oh well. Anyway, a few months ago he hooked up with a guy through craigslist. A week later, another guy hooked up with the same guy...and got caught doing it in a public parking lot somewhere. And then it turns out the guy on the receiving end is...15. After questioning the 15 year old also told about having sex with my friend. Even though it was the 15 year old posting the Craigslist ad looking for sex and my friend and the other guy responding to it.
But both of them are being charged with statutory rape. My friend lost his job immediately after news broke out, had his computer confiscated by police and had to be bailed out of jail by his parents (who got to find out their son was gay and not a standup Christian through a rape charge) and moved in with them during this whole ordeal as he could not afford to stay in his place with no job.
Fast forward a few months:
1) He still doesn't have his computer back from the police, it's been nearly 6 months.
2) He's still without a job, because he's kinda famous for being a guy who raped a kid!
3) His parents are kicking him out because he's "not trying hard enough to be Christian"
Now for 1) This is just stupid. It does not take that long to scan a computer for what you need. He only has internet access through his phone which is certainly subpar for being able to look for jobs as well as any hope of trying to get his mind off of stuff.
For 2) What happened to "Innocent until proven guilty", America? His face was plastered all over the news and it was even made to sound like he just picked up some random kid from a playground and raped him. THE 15 YEAR OLD WAS ASKING FOR SEX, THERE WAS NO ADVANTAGE TAKEN HERE. As well, my friend did not know the guy was 15. And if you know anything about guys, you know there are plenty of 15 year olds who look "legal".
And 3) Thank you for showing Christs love to your son, Mr. Preacher! My friend has no money and cannot afford to stay any place, but he's getting kicked out while he's even more hard pressed than nearly anyone to be able to acquire a job. The trial isn't until October, so there's no chance he can get his name cleared for another few months.
This whole situation is stupid. The speed at which everything going is absurd. His entire life has been moved to a complete halt because someone else fooled him. He may get his life ruined for it. And that other guy who got caught? He's in medical school and graduated from an Ivy League college. Neither of these guys are terrible people, they're getting screwed for screwing the wrong person and their lives are just up in the air during this time. I would go absolutely bonkers in this situation. If I had my computer, I could at least ignore the stress half of the time, but he's got very little to do and almost nothing going for him to get his life back on track...for months! And he's a gay man on trial for statutory rape in the south, even with the facts he doesn't have a whole lot of a chance to be cleared, he might be going to jail for years for this.
There's little reason for me to complain about my life when people are getting screwed over by life far me than I ever will.