Some Behaviors That juliana Needs To Learn and Remember and Put Into Practice:
Being Direct is a Very Good Thing.
Being Direct does not equal Being Blunt and Tactless.
Being Direct does not equal Being Rude to People You Do Not Like, especially when in Social Situations.
People You Do Not Like may turn out to be People You Like, or People That Can Help You.
Even if People You Do Not Like remain People You Do Not Like? Being Polite and Civil to them helps grease the wheels of Social Situations.
It is better to err on the side of Too Polite and Civil. Use the many drawing-room comedies and BBC dramas you have seen as your Model.
If the People You Do Not Like are nasty to you, be even more Polite and Civil to them. They will go crazy wondering what you are Up To.
Even People You Do Not Like can be Amusing at times.
Being Polite and Civil can co-exist quite comfortably with Being Direct. It's simply a matter of Place, Time, and Mode of Expression.
Semi-regularly revisit and reassess your Opinions of People, especially the People You Do Not Like.
And Most Importantly:
To Thine Own Self Be True. Just remember that Thine Own Self can always be Improved.
(Actually, to be Blunt for a moment - I tend to think that most people in my personal aquaintance could stand to learn and remember and put this into practice. I can only speak for and to myself, however. And it's not easy, by any means.)
(There will be Addendums as Thoughts Permit.)
Being Direct does not equal Being Blunt and Tactless.
Being Direct does not equal Being Rude to People You Do Not Like, especially when in Social Situations.
People You Do Not Like may turn out to be People You Like, or People That Can Help You.
Even if People You Do Not Like remain People You Do Not Like? Being Polite and Civil to them helps grease the wheels of Social Situations.
It is better to err on the side of Too Polite and Civil. Use the many drawing-room comedies and BBC dramas you have seen as your Model.
If the People You Do Not Like are nasty to you, be even more Polite and Civil to them. They will go crazy wondering what you are Up To.
Even People You Do Not Like can be Amusing at times.
Being Polite and Civil can co-exist quite comfortably with Being Direct. It's simply a matter of Place, Time, and Mode of Expression.
Semi-regularly revisit and reassess your Opinions of People, especially the People You Do Not Like.
And Most Importantly:
To Thine Own Self Be True. Just remember that Thine Own Self can always be Improved.
(Actually, to be Blunt for a moment - I tend to think that most people in my personal aquaintance could stand to learn and remember and put this into practice. I can only speak for and to myself, however. And it's not easy, by any means.)
(There will be Addendums as Thoughts Permit.)