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I'd really appreciate it if the parents (especially) replied to this entry. I'm curious about how folks feel about "the birds and the bees" regarding their kids. Or for those of us who don't have kids how you intend to react to it.
Munchie's daughter, NaNa (Munchie is my best friend Q's sister, for those just joining the show) was caught watching a B-flick on late night Showtime (or Cinemax, one of them). NaNa is almost 5. She's flooded with sexual images from the life her mother leads (just side info not entirely the point of what I'm saying here.)
Sidenote: NaNa asked a man who was at Munchie's house if he was gonna "do it" with her mother. Munchie's reaction was to beat the child. Now I'm thinking this kid may not entirely know what "it" is and beating her for asking a question damn sure isn't gonna teach her anything other than that "it" is a taboo, which reinforces her to want to learn more about this forbidden topic.
So after learning that the child watched the b-flick (with two other kids both also under 6 years old *smh*) Munchie's reaction is to beat her AGAIN. This disturbs me. What is she teaching her about sex? She is just a kid and barely understands any of this. But it got me wondering about how others feel about this. Would any of you beat your child for watching a porno or other sexually related show? For even mentioning sex?
My parents had a very avoidant style when it came to sexual content. I remember watching tv and twice I asked my gramma about words I didn't know at the time. Both times she feigned ignorance.
Eb: Gramps, what is "porno?"
Gramma: I don't know.
Eb: Gramps, what's a "prostitute?"
Gramma: I don't know.
Later when I realized that she lied to me I was FURIOUS!!! To this day, I still get mad that she lied to avoid talking about it. I was about 9 or 10 when I asked these questions. She could've tactfully answered but she pretended to not know. It is infuriating. But I can't imagine how I would've reacted if I would’ve been beaten for just asking what a prostitute was.
So yeah thoughts? Experiences? Share!
Munchie's daughter, NaNa (Munchie is my best friend Q's sister, for those just joining the show) was caught watching a B-flick on late night Showtime (or Cinemax, one of them). NaNa is almost 5. She's flooded with sexual images from the life her mother leads (just side info not entirely the point of what I'm saying here.)
Sidenote: NaNa asked a man who was at Munchie's house if he was gonna "do it" with her mother. Munchie's reaction was to beat the child. Now I'm thinking this kid may not entirely know what "it" is and beating her for asking a question damn sure isn't gonna teach her anything other than that "it" is a taboo, which reinforces her to want to learn more about this forbidden topic.
So after learning that the child watched the b-flick (with two other kids both also under 6 years old *smh*) Munchie's reaction is to beat her AGAIN. This disturbs me. What is she teaching her about sex? She is just a kid and barely understands any of this. But it got me wondering about how others feel about this. Would any of you beat your child for watching a porno or other sexually related show? For even mentioning sex?
My parents had a very avoidant style when it came to sexual content. I remember watching tv and twice I asked my gramma about words I didn't know at the time. Both times she feigned ignorance.
Eb: Gramps, what is "porno?"
Gramma: I don't know.
Eb: Gramps, what's a "prostitute?"
Gramma: I don't know.
Later when I realized that she lied to me I was FURIOUS!!! To this day, I still get mad that she lied to avoid talking about it. I was about 9 or 10 when I asked these questions. She could've tactfully answered but she pretended to not know. It is infuriating. But I can't imagine how I would've reacted if I would’ve been beaten for just asking what a prostitute was.
So yeah thoughts? Experiences? Share!