I am my hair. I wanna die living just as free as my hair

[duokinneas]

Barring the bullshit that has happened at work...because that has left me feeling hollowed out and more than a little angry...I need to think and talk about something else. And not about smut, either

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[shake_the_stars]

I do not think that the short in back/long in front look is a good one for anyone; I think of it as The Kate Gosselin Chop. Maybe we're not thinking of the same style, I don't know, but the one I'm thinking of is THE most unflattering thing in the history of evar. Admittedly my current hair is slightly shorter in back than in front, but it's supposed to be a '20s-style bob, so at least it looks logically consistent. Which The Kate Gosselin Chop doesn't. (Also, I prefer my hair long and dark, or at least a color that doesn't occur in nature. None of my hair actually grows on my head, though, so I can look normal at work and like an anime character on my own personal time. Most people don't have that luxury.)

You could do long sideswept bangs; then you'd have hair in your face when you wanted it and you could push it out of the way without looking gorfy when you didn't, and if you h8ed them 4evah and wanted to grow them out, it wouldn't be an awful, prolonged, awkward process. I also favor your dyeing-some-of-your-extensions plan; that way you can unclip and go when it's time for work.

As my friend Tara, Queen of Hair Changes (it's been many styles and many colors over the years I've known her), once pointed out, hair grows. But I will think you're adorable no matter what you do. ♥

[duokinneas]

I know the Chop of which you speak. I don't like that cut. It's - dare I use the offensive term - dikey. It's hard to explain exactly what I would do to my poor, traumatized hair, except to say something more like a swing bob or an A-line bob. I would like the back longer, not short and spikey, but the front longer still. If it helps, when I put my hair in a ponytail, I always have the fronts of my hair out and on either side of my face, so something that still achieves that.

Adamantly not what Kate Gosselin was attempting to rock.

I do want to put the bangs back in, and probably cut them to be sideswept. But I wanted to do something with the rest of it, too. I have not cut my hair since I was thirteen, so I almost feel like changing it a little bit without hacking it all off.

I'm envious of people like Tara who have the guts to just go out and change their hair. My hair grows pretty slowly so I always hesitate to make changes to it. Plus, it's very fine; there aren't many styles that I like and can pull off.

[shake_the_stars]

I am trying to answer this comment for the third time, because I either keep getting tired and falling asleep or because I have to go do other things and I get distracted and wander off. Damn. So you get plus-sign points. It's not because I don't l0ff you.

+ I don't find that term offensive, but I can't say the same for the implication that any self-respecting dyke would want to look like Kate Gosselin ^_-
+ Had to look up different kinds of bobs. My preferred hair at the moment is a swing bob, a bit like Catherine Zeta-Jones in Chicago except I'm not hot like Catherine Zeta-Jones. Damn. Your hair is finer so it might look better if you kept it longer.
+ I just buy different hair if I want a change :D I realize this is a luxury not everyone has, though.
+ ♥

[duokinneas]

XD I figured you were dealing with far more important things, especially given the status of your Facebook and LJ - don't worry about it, L33-my-l0ff!

I know some not-so-self-respecting dykes who used to have hair like this, or who used to like this style and want to wear it. But they don't count. ^_~

I posted a picture in response to Zelly's comment below this one. It's a more exaggerated version of the swing bob. Although I think that those 20s flapper haircuts are so cute and when women can pull them off, I'm impressed. My hair is too fine to wear it so short.

I wish I could buy different hair and get away with it, in a non-cosplay sense. I love me my wigs and my extensions, but it's such a pain and my clip-ins were so pricey that I can't justify buying more than one set.

♥

[shake_the_stars]

There is nothing more important than my ukelette, and by extension her hair ^_-

I hereby declare them to no longer be dykes. Because I'm horrible and I can. :DDDDD

I think those would look cute on you! I've gotten compliments on my hair, but am still waiting for someone at work to figure out that it's not real. You do need thicker hair for it to fall properly, though; an A-line bob might be better for you. See what your stylist says; I only skim the hair sections of Allure when it comes, because I do nothing with my real hair other than pull it back, bun it up, and stick it under my hair, so am not the most reliable commentator.

With hair that is not real, you very much get what you pay for. Most of what I have was between $25-$40, which is what you can expect for a short-to-mid-length piece. But when you're barista-ing and they don't pay you enough, it is hard.

MOAR L0FF ♥

[duokinneas]

D'aww. ^___^ Now you know that is not true. I believe your health is more important!

LOL. They were the sort of dykes who were trying very hard to come across as lesbians. Y'know, the sort I like least. If you have to play it up that much, I reckon you're still questioning some things about yourself.

I think it's rad that you have the confidence to rock fake hair. I dunno...I am forever afraid when I wear my clip-ins that someone can tell part of my hair isn't real. And I think it must make your regimen very easy in the morning when you get ready for work. 8D

Ohhh, yes. My clip-ins are real human hair and they cost $85 for a set of five wefts. I can dye, style, and destroy them as I want, but I tend to take good care of them because I would like them to last me until I graduate from college and can buy another set to replace them. D: Why the shit is hair so expensive, anyway? Real or fake, wig or extensions, it is so. Expensive. **bang**

♥♥♥ Hope you're doing okay.

[shake_the_stars]

It is important. But I would let it slide if that were the only way to save you from some horrible fate. (...I don't know what the mechanisms at work there would be. XD) Besides, you know I love you more than anything. ♥

Ah, yes, because we all know that if you're queer, that is YOUR ONLY PERSONALITY TRAIT. All else is magically removed.

It is more confidence-inducing than looking at my real hair and being sad. 8D Also, with short hair, it definitely is easier--I've had longer hair and that is a little more time-consuming because it needs more than a cursory combing. I guess theoretically I could blow off washing my real hair on occasion, but in actual practice that is fucking nasty so I don't.

Hair is expensive because beauty is a business, and it preys on the wallets of women who want to be more attractive. Neither of us is immune. Synthetic is less expensive, but then you can't really heat-style it (...it's always something).

♥♥♥♥ I'll be fine, little seahorse. It's just getting there that's the struggle.