What we talk about when we don't talk about love
Funny how the feelings have changed, but the language, the vernacular, the tone, all sound the same like how they used to be. It's possible to talk like someone is special but when deep down inside it's almost empty and the feelings are pretty much gone.
Scary innit? Is this what most married couples end up as after being married for years? "Hi dear yes you're awesome have a great day at work honey" - all reduced to nothing but a ritual each morning and each night. Not that every married couple ends up like that but it's common...when did they stop loving one another? Don't know, but whatever it is they sound like things are normal anyway.
Still, the impulse of a ritual, a habit, to live beyond the power of its innate meaning still holds strong. It becomes ingrained & hardwired into our everyday subconsciousness. Rationality compels you to see that there is nothing left, but maybe, maybe it's the upside of irrationality though. If everyone were a perfectly rational homo economicus we'd be so darn disillusioned & jaded with the fact that we're stuck in a loveless marriage, just held together by mutual financial obligations and our little own humans. A pretty darn miserable existence if you ask me, to wake up to this soul-crushing knowledge every sunny morning.
Maybe the utility we derive is from the ritual and the facade per se, rather than the "real stuff" itself. Good for us I guess, to never really wake up to the truth. Irrationality could have its upsides after all hooray.
Scary innit? Is this what most married couples end up as after being married for years? "Hi dear yes you're awesome have a great day at work honey" - all reduced to nothing but a ritual each morning and each night. Not that every married couple ends up like that but it's common...when did they stop loving one another? Don't know, but whatever it is they sound like things are normal anyway.
Still, the impulse of a ritual, a habit, to live beyond the power of its innate meaning still holds strong. It becomes ingrained & hardwired into our everyday subconsciousness. Rationality compels you to see that there is nothing left, but maybe, maybe it's the upside of irrationality though. If everyone were a perfectly rational homo economicus we'd be so darn disillusioned & jaded with the fact that we're stuck in a loveless marriage, just held together by mutual financial obligations and our little own humans. A pretty darn miserable existence if you ask me, to wake up to this soul-crushing knowledge every sunny morning.
Maybe the utility we derive is from the ritual and the facade per se, rather than the "real stuff" itself. Good for us I guess, to never really wake up to the truth. Irrationality could have its upsides after all hooray.