Stress Management
On Tuesday, I was back at work from the MC. Cold, sniffles, twisted ankle. Seriously, if we are going out with the brats again, I am getting a leash. That way they don't trip me.... Anyways back to work, so I had signed up for a stress management workshop which was held over lunch hour. Work as per standard is insane despite the end of April Madness (Yes, I know it's not April yet). With so much work, I was late by 1/2 hour for that workshop.
For once, I utterly regret being late for something like this. The person who ran the workshop was great. He had the fun approach and he tells things in a non lecture boring way. Yes, I confess, I thought it would be deathly boring and had embraced the extra minutes of work a wee bit too much.
One of the most important msg that he conveyed was the power of belief. *scoffs* I mean, everyone knows that right? Who doesn't? But do you believe? Do you realize what you subconciously believe in? I saw 2 demo, one on the training video and another done live with one of our employees. When the employee tried to explain what he felt, I saw a lot of people scoffing and making (OMG he must have cheated). Ah, but the mind is a beautiful thing. It is possibly the strongest and most powerful clump of cells in a body. We just might not utilize it, living in a constant daze.
My father have been trying to impress the NLP with me since I was a kid. Being a girl and an emotional twit, I have always resisted it. I guess at the workshop, it was kinda a lightbulb moment for me. I enjoy my emotions. I am rich with emotions but I let it pretty much run my life. It's time to change things.
Another facinating thing, when we discussed stress sources he had included friends. He says, "There are 2 kinds of friends/people. The kind that brings you down to their level and the kind that supports you and make you feel better." He doesn't condemn anyone as per Dr. Phil (yep, he is rather brutal about everything), instead he says, "It's in their nature to be so. Some people wonder why you don't avoid this kind of people but typically the answer is you like hanging out with them. I hang out with them too. And this sort of stress is not blatant, it's very subtle. The excuse is that they are looking out for you, etc."
And I thought to myself. I am glad to be a friend that supports my friends. I recalled the days where people are bad mouthing other people and I stood by them since I am their friend. Through grand lavish weddings, couple fights and whatever else. While I hate being a hypocrite, I am glad that I am honest enough to tell my friends what I really think and let THEM choose their path. I mean let's be honest here, opinion/advice or not, they are not 5 year olds. I am mature enough to let people live their life instead of forcing them to live them according to my standards and values.
Which reminds me, the Dr. Phil advice that I posted here before. Oi, T-boy, I hate to tell you but some people I consider friends are real life downers. I excitedly talk about something new that could change my life and you know what happens? They start stripping it down and at the end of the lecture I feel almost defeated. No, your enemies are not your biggest problems, your friends are (not all though).
They are familiar of you and your histories and your family. They consider themselves expert on anything relating to you so they will tell you exectly what you are. *rolls eyes* "Passive aggresive like you mother" etc? That don't help a bit in any kinds of situations. That is just slotting someone in a neat pigeon hole so you don't have to take them seriously. It's about the same level of nagging like a mother saying, "You just like your father." Not helpful and it demoralize.
I guess it's time to stop hurting myself by caring. Hani likes to nag me about it. "Julie, stop holding a grudge because you are letting them control your emotions that way. The worse thing to do to people like that is by not caring." See, that is why I think she is brilliant and wise despite her attempts to twart that image.
There, all the things that are on my mind for a while. No thoughts, be gone! Stop hunting me while I am driving. I have LJ-ed and you are now known to the world.
PS: The defeated story came after I told Aza about this new thing that I learned at the workshop last Tuesday. *rolles eyes* Should have known better.
For once, I utterly regret being late for something like this. The person who ran the workshop was great. He had the fun approach and he tells things in a non lecture boring way. Yes, I confess, I thought it would be deathly boring and had embraced the extra minutes of work a wee bit too much.
One of the most important msg that he conveyed was the power of belief. *scoffs* I mean, everyone knows that right? Who doesn't? But do you believe? Do you realize what you subconciously believe in? I saw 2 demo, one on the training video and another done live with one of our employees. When the employee tried to explain what he felt, I saw a lot of people scoffing and making (OMG he must have cheated). Ah, but the mind is a beautiful thing. It is possibly the strongest and most powerful clump of cells in a body. We just might not utilize it, living in a constant daze.
My father have been trying to impress the NLP with me since I was a kid. Being a girl and an emotional twit, I have always resisted it. I guess at the workshop, it was kinda a lightbulb moment for me. I enjoy my emotions. I am rich with emotions but I let it pretty much run my life. It's time to change things.
Another facinating thing, when we discussed stress sources he had included friends. He says, "There are 2 kinds of friends/people. The kind that brings you down to their level and the kind that supports you and make you feel better." He doesn't condemn anyone as per Dr. Phil (yep, he is rather brutal about everything), instead he says, "It's in their nature to be so. Some people wonder why you don't avoid this kind of people but typically the answer is you like hanging out with them. I hang out with them too. And this sort of stress is not blatant, it's very subtle. The excuse is that they are looking out for you, etc."
And I thought to myself. I am glad to be a friend that supports my friends. I recalled the days where people are bad mouthing other people and I stood by them since I am their friend. Through grand lavish weddings, couple fights and whatever else. While I hate being a hypocrite, I am glad that I am honest enough to tell my friends what I really think and let THEM choose their path. I mean let's be honest here, opinion/advice or not, they are not 5 year olds. I am mature enough to let people live their life instead of forcing them to live them according to my standards and values.
Which reminds me, the Dr. Phil advice that I posted here before. Oi, T-boy, I hate to tell you but some people I consider friends are real life downers. I excitedly talk about something new that could change my life and you know what happens? They start stripping it down and at the end of the lecture I feel almost defeated. No, your enemies are not your biggest problems, your friends are (not all though).
They are familiar of you and your histories and your family. They consider themselves expert on anything relating to you so they will tell you exectly what you are. *rolls eyes* "Passive aggresive like you mother" etc? That don't help a bit in any kinds of situations. That is just slotting someone in a neat pigeon hole so you don't have to take them seriously. It's about the same level of nagging like a mother saying, "You just like your father." Not helpful and it demoralize.
I guess it's time to stop hurting myself by caring. Hani likes to nag me about it. "Julie, stop holding a grudge because you are letting them control your emotions that way. The worse thing to do to people like that is by not caring." See, that is why I think she is brilliant and wise despite her attempts to twart that image.
There, all the things that are on my mind for a while. No thoughts, be gone! Stop hunting me while I am driving. I have LJ-ed and you are now known to the world.
PS: The defeated story came after I told Aza about this new thing that I learned at the workshop last Tuesday. *rolles eyes* Should have known better.