The baby race...
The baby race is on!
LOL. No, I am not participating in it. We have 2 newly married ladies and 2 'veteran' ladies in the department. Both veterans are looking forward to have a baby soonest. They begin exchanging tips and ideas on how to make it happen. Obviously, the most important thing would to actually do it.
Citing 2 examples, I of course suggested our traditional 'Tongkat Ali'. I know at least 2 couples which worked miracle with it ;) Suprisingly, the ladies were more concerned with their 'performance'. I mean, we are talking about women with babies/kids at home here... I find that suprising but not really. In society, if couples cannot have babies, the blame typically falls on the wife. Despite modern medicine and all the technology, there are still people who thinks that if they married a new wife, they will get the kids that they want.
In Islam, the concept of 'rezeki' comes into play. While you cannot sit around staring at each other hoping for a child but if you already tried so hard and nothing is working, that means it's not your time yet. It's the same with meeting with your future spouse. When the time is right, the calling comes and you typically find the person you are marrying. I know a serial dater *koffs* who eventually find the right person later in their life.
Being a newlyweds, people typically asks a standard question, "When are you having babies?" or "Are you pregnant yet?". While by western standards it's rude (Yes, Cory feels bothered by the question), typically it's asked in a friendly way that it's hard to take offence. Unless people being a pain about family planning.... I get annoyed when they do that.
While some people needs/want the feeling of accomplishment by having kids, I am terrified of having kids. Don't try talking me into having babies. I am a worrier. I'd worry about the big bad world out there where babies are kidnapped and killed, about the future of the world, the future of the planet, about my parenting skills, about the nurseries horror story, about the school bullies, about the nasty teachers they will meet and the list keep on going. My stratergy is to have babies at the semi-peak of my career, that way I'll be busy with work to actually bite my nails over the kids. But I know that I do want kids eventually in a year or two.
The problem with having babies is that you have to give up being selfish. I can't put on the headphones and block out the world whenever I feel like it. I can't tell Cory to grab the camera and just go out for a ride in the car just for fun. Babies have schedule and somewhat like routines. No going to movies when I feel like because someone needs babysit. It's highly unlikely that I am going to the movies without Cory. It's not as fun without his wacky humor.
Oh well... Anyways the baby race is on! Let's see who the winners are in the next month or so. LOL Not one of the ladies asked themselves about who will take over their jobs while they are gone. And they are not Malay either which is rather strange... The Chinese that I usually meet are more careful with family planning.
LOL. No, I am not participating in it. We have 2 newly married ladies and 2 'veteran' ladies in the department. Both veterans are looking forward to have a baby soonest. They begin exchanging tips and ideas on how to make it happen. Obviously, the most important thing would to actually do it.
Citing 2 examples, I of course suggested our traditional 'Tongkat Ali'. I know at least 2 couples which worked miracle with it ;) Suprisingly, the ladies were more concerned with their 'performance'. I mean, we are talking about women with babies/kids at home here... I find that suprising but not really. In society, if couples cannot have babies, the blame typically falls on the wife. Despite modern medicine and all the technology, there are still people who thinks that if they married a new wife, they will get the kids that they want.
In Islam, the concept of 'rezeki' comes into play. While you cannot sit around staring at each other hoping for a child but if you already tried so hard and nothing is working, that means it's not your time yet. It's the same with meeting with your future spouse. When the time is right, the calling comes and you typically find the person you are marrying. I know a serial dater *koffs* who eventually find the right person later in their life.
Being a newlyweds, people typically asks a standard question, "When are you having babies?" or "Are you pregnant yet?". While by western standards it's rude (Yes, Cory feels bothered by the question), typically it's asked in a friendly way that it's hard to take offence. Unless people being a pain about family planning.... I get annoyed when they do that.
While some people needs/want the feeling of accomplishment by having kids, I am terrified of having kids. Don't try talking me into having babies. I am a worrier. I'd worry about the big bad world out there where babies are kidnapped and killed, about the future of the world, the future of the planet, about my parenting skills, about the nurseries horror story, about the school bullies, about the nasty teachers they will meet and the list keep on going. My stratergy is to have babies at the semi-peak of my career, that way I'll be busy with work to actually bite my nails over the kids. But I know that I do want kids eventually in a year or two.
The problem with having babies is that you have to give up being selfish. I can't put on the headphones and block out the world whenever I feel like it. I can't tell Cory to grab the camera and just go out for a ride in the car just for fun. Babies have schedule and somewhat like routines. No going to movies when I feel like because someone needs babysit. It's highly unlikely that I am going to the movies without Cory. It's not as fun without his wacky humor.
Oh well... Anyways the baby race is on! Let's see who the winners are in the next month or so. LOL Not one of the ladies asked themselves about who will take over their jobs while they are gone. And they are not Malay either which is rather strange... The Chinese that I usually meet are more careful with family planning.