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"I go through all this
Before you wake up
So I can feel happier
To be safe up here with you"
(Bjork)
I cant sleep. so i've been dwelling on the question of what is the nature of love, and i thought i'd share my newly found opinions on the subject.
1. do i love you?
it doesnt matter whether or not i believe i love you unless i really know you. because it is possible to love "you," but this is meaningless until my perception of you and who you really are become the same person. so yes, i have been in love, but it doesnt matter because who i thought he was (who i wanted him to be) when i fell in love with him and then how i saw him after we broke up were not similar enough (fuck, i still dont even know why he dumped me).
then there's the question of how can you ever really know people are who you think they are. you cant. however, if two people who love each other are very alike there is a good chance that this love is meaningful, because people tend to know themselves better than anyone else, so there is a good chance the perceived person and the actual person are the same person.
the more time you spend with someone, the more convinced you become that you are getting to know the real person, so you'll believe the love is more meaningful. i would not be content with this unless i was similar to the person, because i can only ever really know myself. so, i believe love at first sight can exist (and be meaningful love) because i have heard that once in a while two people look at each other and instantly connect because they are so similar they recognize themselves in someone else.
and i keep saying whether or not love is meaningful depends on bla bla bla, but i really believe all love is meaningful in some way, even when one loves someone who doenst exist (or possibly in the case of "him," we really did know and love each other, but only who we were at that moment in our lives. but then, is it really love if it isnt permanent?) but for me, loving someone real is what i'm concerned with because it's one of the things i want out of life. (another is truly knowing myself, which fits in nicely with this! as i am seeing that you can never really love someone else until this happens)
2. do you love me?
how much you can really love me depends of course on how well the you know me. this is why it is important that i be honest with you, and not be afraid of showing you who i am. so no, no one (of romantic interest) has ever loved me, the person i am. as i said before, maybe he did love who i was at that time, because at the time, we were very similar people. but because it ended so abruptly, we probably werent as similar as i would like to believe.
as for you, the more i get to know you, the more i find things i like about you (many being things i would like to be or already am) so i believe i will find my love for you to be very rewarding. i think that you are also enjoying getting to know me, based on how you show it. i only hope that if you ever do tell me "i love you" it will be romantic for that moment before i begin analyzing how well you know me.
Before you wake up
So I can feel happier
To be safe up here with you"
(Bjork)
I cant sleep. so i've been dwelling on the question of what is the nature of love, and i thought i'd share my newly found opinions on the subject.
1. do i love you?
it doesnt matter whether or not i believe i love you unless i really know you. because it is possible to love "you," but this is meaningless until my perception of you and who you really are become the same person. so yes, i have been in love, but it doesnt matter because who i thought he was (who i wanted him to be) when i fell in love with him and then how i saw him after we broke up were not similar enough (fuck, i still dont even know why he dumped me).
then there's the question of how can you ever really know people are who you think they are. you cant. however, if two people who love each other are very alike there is a good chance that this love is meaningful, because people tend to know themselves better than anyone else, so there is a good chance the perceived person and the actual person are the same person.
the more time you spend with someone, the more convinced you become that you are getting to know the real person, so you'll believe the love is more meaningful. i would not be content with this unless i was similar to the person, because i can only ever really know myself. so, i believe love at first sight can exist (and be meaningful love) because i have heard that once in a while two people look at each other and instantly connect because they are so similar they recognize themselves in someone else.
and i keep saying whether or not love is meaningful depends on bla bla bla, but i really believe all love is meaningful in some way, even when one loves someone who doenst exist (or possibly in the case of "him," we really did know and love each other, but only who we were at that moment in our lives. but then, is it really love if it isnt permanent?) but for me, loving someone real is what i'm concerned with because it's one of the things i want out of life. (another is truly knowing myself, which fits in nicely with this! as i am seeing that you can never really love someone else until this happens)
2. do you love me?
how much you can really love me depends of course on how well the you know me. this is why it is important that i be honest with you, and not be afraid of showing you who i am. so no, no one (of romantic interest) has ever loved me, the person i am. as i said before, maybe he did love who i was at that time, because at the time, we were very similar people. but because it ended so abruptly, we probably werent as similar as i would like to believe.
as for you, the more i get to know you, the more i find things i like about you (many being things i would like to be or already am) so i believe i will find my love for you to be very rewarding. i think that you are also enjoying getting to know me, based on how you show it. i only hope that if you ever do tell me "i love you" it will be romantic for that moment before i begin analyzing how well you know me.