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Last night, I had an eye opener. Yes, it is exactly what every person I know has ever told me, but last night it finally made sense to me. I was talking to Raj on aim (mistake #1, bear with me) and we talked about what happened a few weeks ago at the bar. He was still upset about it and u could tell kinda angry. Well he finally told me what was said in the bathroom. When that didn't make sense to me as to y it would piss him off he explained the rest of the scene. Maybe I have to be a guy to understand this, but in general it comes down to someone gave me a compliment, it pissed him off, and he ended whatever friendship there was between us because of it. This is what he said was said to him in the bathroom:
"he said "u know i am with a great girl. u know preeti? she is really cool and sweet girl. i cant belive u would dump a girl like that. she is a great girl" and on and on and on of his druken babble"
The Scene: "there are 7 urinals there and 2 or 3 toilets there and i was the ONLY person pissing in one of them and he bangs the door open (not jsut a normal person push) and pisses right next to me where there were plenty of open places and starts babbling like a *edit*.......HELL NO UNACCEPTABLE!!! unless he wanted to see my penis and mind u that i couldnt even understand him cauyse of his drunk babble"
After hearing all that from him, I was in disbelief of how that would make someone that mad. I asked him if the guy had threatened him, touched him, insulted him, said all of that in a rude manner, or anything of the sort. The answer to all of that was no. But , then it shined thru loud and clear how immature and selfish he really was. Two things that I already knew about him, but not to that extent. Then when he had the nerve to tell me that he might forgive me sometime in the future, for the first time I thought to myself, I don't really care if you do. At that instant he proved to me beyond all doubt that he isn't worth my time, not if he takes something like that and blows it out of proportion and then wont even hear any reason about it. Or for one sec even consider the fact that he just might be mad with himself instead of taking it out on me. They say everything happens for a reason, well I guess it took that harmless yet stupid incident to show me what kind of 'friend' he really is. He has completely fallen off the friendship ladder, he has a lot to prove if he ever even wants to be back on the bottom rung again.
I was talking to one my other friends a little while ago and she told me that, "He will end up mad for a while he doesnt have that power over you anymore. and thats the only way you can stay friends in any way shape or form in the future is if you both have an equal playing field"
With his stubbornness and Type A personality, I highly doubt that will ever happen. It makes me kinda sad to see something like that dissappear, but at the same time for now Im ok with it. There are plenty of yet to be discovered players on the field, we'll see what the future brings. :-)
"he said "u know i am with a great girl. u know preeti? she is really cool and sweet girl. i cant belive u would dump a girl like that. she is a great girl" and on and on and on of his druken babble"
The Scene: "there are 7 urinals there and 2 or 3 toilets there and i was the ONLY person pissing in one of them and he bangs the door open (not jsut a normal person push) and pisses right next to me where there were plenty of open places and starts babbling like a *edit*.......HELL NO UNACCEPTABLE!!! unless he wanted to see my penis and mind u that i couldnt even understand him cauyse of his drunk babble"
After hearing all that from him, I was in disbelief of how that would make someone that mad. I asked him if the guy had threatened him, touched him, insulted him, said all of that in a rude manner, or anything of the sort. The answer to all of that was no. But , then it shined thru loud and clear how immature and selfish he really was. Two things that I already knew about him, but not to that extent. Then when he had the nerve to tell me that he might forgive me sometime in the future, for the first time I thought to myself, I don't really care if you do. At that instant he proved to me beyond all doubt that he isn't worth my time, not if he takes something like that and blows it out of proportion and then wont even hear any reason about it. Or for one sec even consider the fact that he just might be mad with himself instead of taking it out on me. They say everything happens for a reason, well I guess it took that harmless yet stupid incident to show me what kind of 'friend' he really is. He has completely fallen off the friendship ladder, he has a lot to prove if he ever even wants to be back on the bottom rung again.
I was talking to one my other friends a little while ago and she told me that, "He will end up mad for a while he doesnt have that power over you anymore. and thats the only way you can stay friends in any way shape or form in the future is if you both have an equal playing field"
With his stubbornness and Type A personality, I highly doubt that will ever happen. It makes me kinda sad to see something like that dissappear, but at the same time for now Im ok with it. There are plenty of yet to be discovered players on the field, we'll see what the future brings. :-)