Its really not that confusing
okay this is being posted as a sidebar reponse to a LJ posted by Lil Girl?
when reading it i notice something. How often we mix up sex and love. I my opinion the one has very very little to do with the other
the relationships between the two concepts are, as i see them, as follows:
- people in love have sex (although some abstain)
- Wanting to have sex with someone does not necessarily mean they love you (lust is a powerful thing)
- u don't have to love the person you have sex with (but it helps, sometimes, but not necessary)
I love how girls feel the need to tie their desire for sex to love... as many a smart boy has said; if you want to fuck someone just do it, you don't have to start a relationship with them. but their is one other thing and this is what i want (after years of figuring it out by trial and error). In my relationships like the serious ones (sex is a sidebar at best) I want the person that is my equal and partner. But lust cannot be denied and for that i'm just as picky... it gotta be "DRIVE ME CRAZY" stuff. and just to make life deficult i want a combination of a and b (like all you girls don't want the same). Sexual satisfaction, is a lot easier to find than life long love. so i'mma try to find love and hope it comes with a significant sex drive.
So my thing is Ladies, have HIGH standards and STICK by them... Love OOOOPS and BOOBOOS are no one's fault but yours. The control factors are equally in your hands. just like he can break your heart you can break his back... the only difference is who hold on the the controller. let go of it and he;s not gonna give it back.. just play video games with him and he'll show you that.
okay now i'm ranting but i think its so stupid that my ladies are screwing themselves just cus they don't take two minutes to think i'm worth every boy that i want. And actually take the steps to get what they want. YEAH LADIES THAT MEANS: STOP CRYING, STOP THINING OF YOURSELF AS LIFE'S VICTIM, STAND UP AND CLAIM YOUR SPACE AND WHAT YOU WANT!!!
when reading it i notice something. How often we mix up sex and love. I my opinion the one has very very little to do with the other
the relationships between the two concepts are, as i see them, as follows:
- people in love have sex (although some abstain)
- Wanting to have sex with someone does not necessarily mean they love you (lust is a powerful thing)
- u don't have to love the person you have sex with (but it helps, sometimes, but not necessary)
I love how girls feel the need to tie their desire for sex to love... as many a smart boy has said; if you want to fuck someone just do it, you don't have to start a relationship with them. but their is one other thing and this is what i want (after years of figuring it out by trial and error). In my relationships like the serious ones (sex is a sidebar at best) I want the person that is my equal and partner. But lust cannot be denied and for that i'm just as picky... it gotta be "DRIVE ME CRAZY" stuff. and just to make life deficult i want a combination of a and b (like all you girls don't want the same). Sexual satisfaction, is a lot easier to find than life long love. so i'mma try to find love and hope it comes with a significant sex drive.
So my thing is Ladies, have HIGH standards and STICK by them... Love OOOOPS and BOOBOOS are no one's fault but yours. The control factors are equally in your hands. just like he can break your heart you can break his back... the only difference is who hold on the the controller. let go of it and he;s not gonna give it back.. just play video games with him and he'll show you that.
okay now i'm ranting but i think its so stupid that my ladies are screwing themselves just cus they don't take two minutes to think i'm worth every boy that i want. And actually take the steps to get what they want. YEAH LADIES THAT MEANS: STOP CRYING, STOP THINING OF YOURSELF AS LIFE'S VICTIM, STAND UP AND CLAIM YOUR SPACE AND WHAT YOU WANT!!!