Potential

[dtsou]

Potential is highly overrated. The potential to do well in school. The potential to have a great relationship. The potential to change yourself. All of these things, although undeniably positive, fall far short of the willpower, determination, and perseverance required to turn the potential into a reality. It is far too easy to fall into

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[dtsou]

Yeah it makes sense, but that's not exactly the distinction I'm making, although it's close. I'm saying that given a "choice" to try to get something, most people just don't have the willpower to make themselves work as much as they need to to get it, even though they theoretically would gladly put forth the required work. Now, you could say that they really just don't WANT it enough, and in that respect you'd be right. But that's what I'm talking about, the lack of WANTing something enough. So, back to the class example, I "want" to do well in the class, and given how much work that I would need to do to do well, I would gladly perform that work, but I just can't make myself do it when it actually comes down to it. You could say that by making the decision to stop studying when I get tired, or not going back over an assignment to check answers, is a decision to not do well in the class, but in another sense it's really not, it's just lack of willpower, or whatever you want to call it. So, it's not that there's a lack of potential to do well, it's just that there's a lack of willpower to do well.

[pessen]

I guess it's a matter of semantics. I see your point, but I still stand by mine. If you're a person that is driven to succeed and work hard at things, that's fine. But if you're not a particularly driven person, then I don't think you should feel bad about it. It might run counter to your upbringing, but I just don't think that everybody needs to work as hard as possible and be as successful as possible. I think it's ok to be a little lazy and just enjoy life instead of always being driven to succeed or whatever.

[dtsou]

Well, just because you have the ability to be driven doesn't mean you have to exercise it all the time, or even that you will have less time, or enjoy life any less. For example, for schoolwork, usually if you can be driven and just finish things early, you enjoy the time afterwards much much more than if you procrastinate and do things at the last second. I personally know a few people who can make themselves work very hard at things, but they don't do it all the time, and they have plenty of time to enjoy other things.

[palpablevt]

Hehehe, this is me. :)

[pessen]

I know. I guess I'm just saying that whether or not you are driven seems to be a part of who you are and therefore it seems silly to feel guilty about it. To me it would be as if I said that I felt bad because I wasn't very good at drawing or singing. It's just not who I am and it seems silly to feel bad about it. Whatever happened to "Be Yourself"? :-P

[dtsou]

I agree that it's part of who you are. The crucial point is that being driven is something that you can change about yourself. Raw intelligence/ability/potential is something you can't. And I'm just saying that I'd almost rather be someone who was driven enough to reach those limits and have lower limits, than someone who had really high limits but not enough drive.

[pessen]

I guess. I think you can become a better artist and singer too, though. Granted, your talent level will never change, but you can become better. I think I understand what you're saying (you would rather be Vegeta than Goku, huh?), I just don't see why it should bother you too much.