LJ Idol, Week 32 (Home Game entry): "Modest Proposals"

[dslartoo]

I have never felt the urge to reproduce.

I see those eyebrows going up into the stratosphere. Of course I've felt the urge to have sex. I'm a guy; we think about sex an average of once every seven seconds, if the popularly stated statistic is to be believed. Sex is great and wonderful and awesome, and a fantastic way to grow closer, and I'm dating

Comments

[anonymous]

"And that's why I'm not, and never will be, a parent. Because I know in my heart of hearts that I don't have the personality, the temperament, or the desire to be the best parent I could be. And without that, there's no sense in being a parent at all." I think we've had this convo in real life but buddy, I could not agree with you more wholeheartedly. I've had that conversation with Alan, more than once, because I didn't want my choices to make him feel as though he'd missed out, and as it turns out he, vice versa - but we both feel a child should absolutely be 100% the center of your universe, and with us, they just wouldn't be. We don't have that physiological, emotional, mental personality - we just don't. I love (relish, maybe need?) quiet and order and routine and orderliness (Alan perhaps less so) and kids are pretty much anathema to all of those. So offspring would be a shame for all three of us. We do have a lot of love for friends' kids, Josh, Anthony and Brooke, and we participate in lots of things such as band recitals, ballet performances, birthday parties - we're the cool "aunt and uncle" and that's enough for us. And for them, I think.

Cheers,
Helly