You Don't Love Me Yet by Jonathan Lethem
"What about the girl in your story? Did she find it depressing, or funny?"
"I don't think it counted for that much one way or the other. We were only one another's astronaut food."
"What's astronaut food?"
"You know, stuff in little packets that you keep lying on the shelf. Everyone has some lying around. The people you imagine you might be with but you know you never really will be. The people who if you're in a couple but you're a little bored or restless you meet them for coffee a lot and the other half of your couple isn't really thrilled about it. Or if you're single, they're the people you're keeping on a mental list just so you don't feel there aren't any possibilities. Friends who are slmost more than friends but really, they're just friends. Astronaut food, bomb-shelter provisions. If you were ever going to have anything with them it would have happened already. Sometimes you even fall into bed with them, but it doesn't count for much. It's always a mistake to try to get any nourishment out of that stuff. But not a big mistake. That's the beautiful part, how the stakes are so low."
"Only if everyone agrees that they're mutual astronaut food."
"Oh, absolutely. You can screw up your astronaut food a million ways. Even just letting them know. Though they sense it at a certain level, nobody wants to be told. The worst is when someone falls in love and then gets all self-righteous about breaking up with their astronaut food, as if there's anything to break up about."
"What about the situation when someone is acting like they're only astronaut food, but really has hopes of something more."
"I don't think it counted for that much one way or the other. We were only one another's astronaut food."
"What's astronaut food?"
"You know, stuff in little packets that you keep lying on the shelf. Everyone has some lying around. The people you imagine you might be with but you know you never really will be. The people who if you're in a couple but you're a little bored or restless you meet them for coffee a lot and the other half of your couple isn't really thrilled about it. Or if you're single, they're the people you're keeping on a mental list just so you don't feel there aren't any possibilities. Friends who are slmost more than friends but really, they're just friends. Astronaut food, bomb-shelter provisions. If you were ever going to have anything with them it would have happened already. Sometimes you even fall into bed with them, but it doesn't count for much. It's always a mistake to try to get any nourishment out of that stuff. But not a big mistake. That's the beautiful part, how the stakes are so low."
"Only if everyone agrees that they're mutual astronaut food."
"Oh, absolutely. You can screw up your astronaut food a million ways. Even just letting them know. Though they sense it at a certain level, nobody wants to be told. The worst is when someone falls in love and then gets all self-righteous about breaking up with their astronaut food, as if there's anything to break up about."
"What about the situation when someone is acting like they're only astronaut food, but really has hopes of something more."