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There's a lot of conflicting ideas about how to raise your children nowadays.
Current psychology says that it's best to reward good behavior, and that punishment can harm a child's development. Seriously, what that says is that all you can do is ignore bad behavior. If your kid hits you, you have to pretty much ignore it, or say "Y'know, Caitlyn, that hurt Mommy when you did that." How do you end this behavior just by rewarding the good? Do you give her a cookie for NOT hitting you in the face? Essentially, the only way you can ensure good behavior is to bribe the kid. "I will give you a piece of cake at the end of the day if you don't run around and scream when I'm trying to run errands." Then if they run around, you tell them they just lost their cake. Honestly, how else do you do it. You're shopping, they're running around hollering, and you can only reward them once they behave themselves. I know a lot of single people who would love to kick your ass for that kind of attitude.
Current psychology says that it's best to reward good behavior, and that punishment can harm a child's development. Seriously, what that says is that all you can do is ignore bad behavior. If your kid hits you, you have to pretty much ignore it, or say "Y'know, Caitlyn, that hurt Mommy when you did that." How do you end this behavior just by rewarding the good? Do you give her a cookie for NOT hitting you in the face? Essentially, the only way you can ensure good behavior is to bribe the kid. "I will give you a piece of cake at the end of the day if you don't run around and scream when I'm trying to run errands." Then if they run around, you tell them they just lost their cake. Honestly, how else do you do it. You're shopping, they're running around hollering, and you can only reward them once they behave themselves. I know a lot of single people who would love to kick your ass for that kind of attitude.