Sexuality, Church, and Hypocrisy

[drewandian]

I started to have a conversation last night about churches that accept the LGBTQ community for who they are without trying to change them, after I kind of just outed myself as bi. (I usually hate labels, but sometimes the labels are just the easiest way to explain things, so that's the label I go with.) I explained that my church (that I love and

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[thothmes]

I cannot imagine a loving God who could not accept each person the way they came. I think you are taking the right path.

I think many people confuse "God loves me the way I came" with license to do whatever we want. Part of growing up is taming our inner toddler who wants it all when she wants it, how she wants it, and whenever she wants it without reference to the wants and needs of others, or even to unvarnished reality. A relationship based on respect and mutuality is not this kind of desire allowed to run roughshod over others. It is not disordered. I don't see why thoughtful congregations cannot find their way to this understanding, although it often is the case that some of the people who seek out religious community because they want rules to live by, are also people who feel the need for clarity and limits, and they are often the most vocal opponents of change.

But you are not fighting that, so much as the fact that large personalities or prominence within a community carries its own gravity, and space/time and the rules bend for them. Humanity keeps on being human, generation after generation. The Vulcans would be so disappointed!