ThePriestSays: NonStraight Sexual/Gender Prefs: Why? The Nitty Gritty
(Warning: Non-Conventional thinking ahead:)
Is it is true that there are issues here deeper than biology as we understand it today. That what we have done in our current prebirth existence, our former lives, has tremendous influence in the settings, challenges and lessons we must learn now.
I know this is really hard to grasp, but we were born as Spirits like God our creator, neither male nor female, but complete with full and balanced dynamic spectrum of all of the gender qualities, yin and yang, passion and passive, assertive and serving, i.e. opposition AND balance in all things.
We are given male or female bodies, not by accident, not by a Mean and Nasty God, but by our own choices that leads us to today. Everything that happens in our lives happens for a reason, and has consequences that both follows us and leads us into the future. And the root of them all is spiritual, because after all, that is who we are.
Many people have cursed God for their race, their addictions, their physical and mental disabilities, their families, parents, and yes certainly gender. The really funny and at the same time sad part of this is that they are just condemning themselves. While I have heard many "crossgendered" persons use the argument that morality has NOTHING to do with sexual preference, and based it on the question WHO would ever chose to be gay/transvestite/etc. I would say the answers are simple:
1. Morality and its spiritual foundations have EVERYTHING to do with it.
2. YOU did.
The are many true and valid reasons to choose to be in the body of one gender but not liking it...For example, you may have chosen too many successive sojourns in one gender and have "lost touch" with the qualities of the other that balances the soul, and so the imbalance can only be corrected by experience in the missing gender to relearn those important qualities necessary for spiritual wholeness.
You may previously intently hurt or killed someone that had "butch" or "effeminate" qualities.
You may have oppressed the other gender, as a sexually manipulative, contemptuous and/or selfish wife\mistress\gf\prostitute\Mother, or as an abusive and/or insensitive husband/bf/Trick/Father, etc.
You may have sexually used-abused your son/daughter, neighbor boy/girl, slave M/F, niece/nephew, seduced/raped your neighbors wife/husband, an innocent stranger etc.
You may have been involved in S&M relationships harmful to the other gender, even if "he/she wanted it".
In all sexual relationships including homosexual ones, there one the dominant, the other the submissive, once in while you may be a switcher, but in all sexual relationships it is necessary to gender roleplay. Person that have had too many sojourns as sexual dominants to the point using sex to punish or hurt or control, or too many sojourns as submissives sexually to the point of being codependent, resulting in the harmful unbalancing of the yin and yang.
Females that have used their reproductive gift in deceit to entrap men, prostitute themselves in marriage or any other sexual relationship to get what they selfishly want by withholding sex, falsely accuse of rape, etc. Or males doing the same thing, i.e.. forced marriage, withholding sex, falsely accusing a girl of being promiscuous or nonvirgin.
Sexual addictions, treating the opposite sex as objects, less than human, etc.
Having secret homosexual desires and using one's position to hurt punish homosexuals...
The list is endless...
And so because of our choices we may have to face extremely difficult situations is necessary to learn the hard lessons that we need. And souls with homosexual/transexual issues living now must learn by their own experiences and actions or repeat the lesson endlessly until they do. Those souls in that situation didn't just set the natural consequences in motion, they specifically agreed, with agreement of the other participants in that souls now sojourn to enter therein.
So gay/lesbian/transexual issues are not just not for the individuals lesson, but for the family as well, if not clan, tribe, nation.
Of course it will be very hard if you have homosexual tendencies not to engage in them, exactly as hard as it for any person not to engage in their greatest spiritual/moral/ethical vice/addictive weakness. But as it is written God will give no soul more temptation than what he/she can bear. Not what you think you can bear, but what with full heart, mind, body and strength with the Lord's help you can bear. God loves all souls and wants as any parent their children to grow in light and grace. God wants us to return to him and be HIS children, the Children of God. He never gives up on us, he never stops loving us, regardless of how badly we screw things up.
For some children, appropriate gender roles and identification does not come easily, that doesn't mean they can't be taught, and that doesn't mean they can't learn. The responsibilities of socialization are on the parents for sexual as well as all other social behaviors. I know lots of persons in heterosexual relationships that have not a clue how to have a stable and lasting relationship with the opposite sex. Like everything else, we parents set the example. If we want our children to live within the safety of living in harmony with God's Universal Laws, we have to do the same: For we all have sexual temptations and weaknesses.
I am not going to pretend that there is a "medical/psych cure" for crossgender sexual tendencies, any more than there is a such a cure for alcoholism tendencies, or any addictive personality weaknesses. Generally, setting up a fence from it, with help from family and friends to reenforce it when you feel you are failing works.
Homosexuality is trying to fill a void, or kill the pain of deeper issues that ache and hurt within the soul. There may be underlaying physical and mental health problems that go untreated. And engaging in it like any compulsion is not going fix anything in the long run, in fact, in makes things worse, because it escalates as it cycles. And many more people are hurt. You can know the nature of something by the fruit of which it bears. Rainbow ribbon and pink triangle volks may not want to admit this, but them that engage in the gay lifestyle, have exponentially more sexual encounters with more partners, and it tends to be much more impersonal, and much more selfish towards self, and objectification of others. They have more mental illness, more physical (nonSTD) illness, more accidents, tend to have more extreme domestic violence, poor self image, more STDs, more likely to have substance abuse addictions, and a way higher percent of having progressive addictive personality disorders. I would say the term "gay" lifestyle was a misnomer like "Greenland". Yes, some the hardships of a gay lifestyle is caused by hate and bully attitudes of others. But the heart of the hurt comes from self. It is not of God.
Is it is true that there are issues here deeper than biology as we understand it today. That what we have done in our current prebirth existence, our former lives, has tremendous influence in the settings, challenges and lessons we must learn now.
I know this is really hard to grasp, but we were born as Spirits like God our creator, neither male nor female, but complete with full and balanced dynamic spectrum of all of the gender qualities, yin and yang, passion and passive, assertive and serving, i.e. opposition AND balance in all things.
We are given male or female bodies, not by accident, not by a Mean and Nasty God, but by our own choices that leads us to today. Everything that happens in our lives happens for a reason, and has consequences that both follows us and leads us into the future. And the root of them all is spiritual, because after all, that is who we are.
Many people have cursed God for their race, their addictions, their physical and mental disabilities, their families, parents, and yes certainly gender. The really funny and at the same time sad part of this is that they are just condemning themselves. While I have heard many "crossgendered" persons use the argument that morality has NOTHING to do with sexual preference, and based it on the question WHO would ever chose to be gay/transvestite/etc. I would say the answers are simple:
1. Morality and its spiritual foundations have EVERYTHING to do with it.
2. YOU did.
The are many true and valid reasons to choose to be in the body of one gender but not liking it...For example, you may have chosen too many successive sojourns in one gender and have "lost touch" with the qualities of the other that balances the soul, and so the imbalance can only be corrected by experience in the missing gender to relearn those important qualities necessary for spiritual wholeness.
You may previously intently hurt or killed someone that had "butch" or "effeminate" qualities.
You may have oppressed the other gender, as a sexually manipulative, contemptuous and/or selfish wife\mistress\gf\prostitute\Mother, or as an abusive and/or insensitive husband/bf/Trick/Father, etc.
You may have sexually used-abused your son/daughter, neighbor boy/girl, slave M/F, niece/nephew, seduced/raped your neighbors wife/husband, an innocent stranger etc.
You may have been involved in S&M relationships harmful to the other gender, even if "he/she wanted it".
In all sexual relationships including homosexual ones, there one the dominant, the other the submissive, once in while you may be a switcher, but in all sexual relationships it is necessary to gender roleplay. Person that have had too many sojourns as sexual dominants to the point using sex to punish or hurt or control, or too many sojourns as submissives sexually to the point of being codependent, resulting in the harmful unbalancing of the yin and yang.
Females that have used their reproductive gift in deceit to entrap men, prostitute themselves in marriage or any other sexual relationship to get what they selfishly want by withholding sex, falsely accuse of rape, etc. Or males doing the same thing, i.e.. forced marriage, withholding sex, falsely accusing a girl of being promiscuous or nonvirgin.
Sexual addictions, treating the opposite sex as objects, less than human, etc.
Having secret homosexual desires and using one's position to hurt punish homosexuals...
The list is endless...
And so because of our choices we may have to face extremely difficult situations is necessary to learn the hard lessons that we need. And souls with homosexual/transexual issues living now must learn by their own experiences and actions or repeat the lesson endlessly until they do. Those souls in that situation didn't just set the natural consequences in motion, they specifically agreed, with agreement of the other participants in that souls now sojourn to enter therein.
So gay/lesbian/transexual issues are not just not for the individuals lesson, but for the family as well, if not clan, tribe, nation.
Of course it will be very hard if you have homosexual tendencies not to engage in them, exactly as hard as it for any person not to engage in their greatest spiritual/moral/ethical vice/addictive weakness. But as it is written God will give no soul more temptation than what he/she can bear. Not what you think you can bear, but what with full heart, mind, body and strength with the Lord's help you can bear. God loves all souls and wants as any parent their children to grow in light and grace. God wants us to return to him and be HIS children, the Children of God. He never gives up on us, he never stops loving us, regardless of how badly we screw things up.
For some children, appropriate gender roles and identification does not come easily, that doesn't mean they can't be taught, and that doesn't mean they can't learn. The responsibilities of socialization are on the parents for sexual as well as all other social behaviors. I know lots of persons in heterosexual relationships that have not a clue how to have a stable and lasting relationship with the opposite sex. Like everything else, we parents set the example. If we want our children to live within the safety of living in harmony with God's Universal Laws, we have to do the same: For we all have sexual temptations and weaknesses.
I am not going to pretend that there is a "medical/psych cure" for crossgender sexual tendencies, any more than there is a such a cure for alcoholism tendencies, or any addictive personality weaknesses. Generally, setting up a fence from it, with help from family and friends to reenforce it when you feel you are failing works.
Homosexuality is trying to fill a void, or kill the pain of deeper issues that ache and hurt within the soul. There may be underlaying physical and mental health problems that go untreated. And engaging in it like any compulsion is not going fix anything in the long run, in fact, in makes things worse, because it escalates as it cycles. And many more people are hurt. You can know the nature of something by the fruit of which it bears. Rainbow ribbon and pink triangle volks may not want to admit this, but them that engage in the gay lifestyle, have exponentially more sexual encounters with more partners, and it tends to be much more impersonal, and much more selfish towards self, and objectification of others. They have more mental illness, more physical (nonSTD) illness, more accidents, tend to have more extreme domestic violence, poor self image, more STDs, more likely to have substance abuse addictions, and a way higher percent of having progressive addictive personality disorders. I would say the term "gay" lifestyle was a misnomer like "Greenland". Yes, some the hardships of a gay lifestyle is caused by hate and bully attitudes of others. But the heart of the hurt comes from self. It is not of God.