friends?
I wanted to do a thanksgiving dinner for friends and have everyone bring over a dish. I wanted to have people over and play games. I wanted to create memories and laughter. Am I a bad person for wanting this? I canceled my dinner cause not enough people were interested or enthusiastic about it. And I was taking a day off work to try and make this happen. Turkeys take a lot of freaking effort.
Here is I want to say to all them in a facebook note, and probably will in the next day or so.
Some of the iconic shows of our lifetime have been Friends, Will and Grace, or even Sex and the City. These shows revolve around friendship. Sure there is the love romance side story lines, but the main thing is the friendship. Friends that are there for your crazy relationships, for the death of a pet, of a loved one, or just simply a case of the Mondays. Do we often take enough time to cherish our friends?
Many of you may not know, but Jesse and I have broken up for good about a few months ago. While we are still on good terms, it was decided I was not the one for him, even though he loves me and cares for me. I have no doubt in my mind there is not much he still not do for me. But it has been hard. How can someone love you and you not be right for them? I really could have used some friends to help me wrap my mind around this concept and specially now as I am attempting to get back into the dating scene. Heck, one of the guys I know is even doing some lines of coke.
What I am saying is, so many of us have gotten so swept in our own lives that we forget about our friends and what they may be going through. That they may have something major to tell us or just simply need a hug. Who doesn't like it when someone takes 5 minutes just to listen to them vent about something stupid. Sure many of us have reasons to be busy, school, work, partners, planning weddings, etc, but the fact of the matter is that these are just all excuses. And we need our friends for when life hits us hard. When our wedding plans go astray, we fight with our partners, a parent or loved dies, or even just a pet dies, when we get sick and need soup, when you lose your favorite scarf, when you meet a douche bag at the club, or just because. We need each other. Those with partners, it's great you have someone special in your life, but you can not, and I repeat CAN NOT put all of your eggs in one basket. At some point, they will disappoint you, no one is perfect. They will be gone when you need them most, they may have a long business trip, go to war, or just simply, not work out. They could die. And when something really shitty happens, where do you go?
I've learned that lesson about pushing everyone away because I was too busy or I had things figured out and I missed out on a lot of great things and a lot of great people. By the time I realized my mistake, it was too late to reach out to them, they simply moved on and found new people to invest in, and it left me alone. Anyways, happy holidays. Enjoy your turkey and loved ones.
Here is I want to say to all them in a facebook note, and probably will in the next day or so.
Some of the iconic shows of our lifetime have been Friends, Will and Grace, or even Sex and the City. These shows revolve around friendship. Sure there is the love romance side story lines, but the main thing is the friendship. Friends that are there for your crazy relationships, for the death of a pet, of a loved one, or just simply a case of the Mondays. Do we often take enough time to cherish our friends?
Many of you may not know, but Jesse and I have broken up for good about a few months ago. While we are still on good terms, it was decided I was not the one for him, even though he loves me and cares for me. I have no doubt in my mind there is not much he still not do for me. But it has been hard. How can someone love you and you not be right for them? I really could have used some friends to help me wrap my mind around this concept and specially now as I am attempting to get back into the dating scene. Heck, one of the guys I know is even doing some lines of coke.
What I am saying is, so many of us have gotten so swept in our own lives that we forget about our friends and what they may be going through. That they may have something major to tell us or just simply need a hug. Who doesn't like it when someone takes 5 minutes just to listen to them vent about something stupid. Sure many of us have reasons to be busy, school, work, partners, planning weddings, etc, but the fact of the matter is that these are just all excuses. And we need our friends for when life hits us hard. When our wedding plans go astray, we fight with our partners, a parent or loved dies, or even just a pet dies, when we get sick and need soup, when you lose your favorite scarf, when you meet a douche bag at the club, or just because. We need each other. Those with partners, it's great you have someone special in your life, but you can not, and I repeat CAN NOT put all of your eggs in one basket. At some point, they will disappoint you, no one is perfect. They will be gone when you need them most, they may have a long business trip, go to war, or just simply, not work out. They could die. And when something really shitty happens, where do you go?
I've learned that lesson about pushing everyone away because I was too busy or I had things figured out and I missed out on a lot of great things and a lot of great people. By the time I realized my mistake, it was too late to reach out to them, they simply moved on and found new people to invest in, and it left me alone. Anyways, happy holidays. Enjoy your turkey and loved ones.