I have joined a match making service - yes really
First, let me say I'm slightly annoyed because my computer won't let me make a LJ cut. For some reason the icons aren't available but I'll try later on this week to fix that. Eta: I have since rectified the problem.
Okay, I took this test someone had on their livejournal, which took me, unbeknownst (cause I wasn't paying attention) to Okcupid where I took the test. I declined to join the site so I could have a little mindless fun with quizzes and the next thing I know I'm finished with two tests and they're offering for me to join yet again - it's simple they said - and I did and started taking more quizzes and then checked out the site to find I was on a pretty cool site despite that it was a match maker site! I actually filled out my profile and they sent me all these matches or rather hooked me up. I was amazed.
I'm not looking for a man really but I was curious who I might be paired with so I thought what harm could there be? Well, I got responses from all kinds of people, many who aren't really compatible much with me all that much and many that are though most live too far though one is less than 30 minutes away. I'm impressed. These guys all seem very nice and I really mean that. I felt one might not be what he claimed to be, the whole feel with his profile, his picture and the e-mail he sent me was just plain creepy but I politely told him I wasn't interested and wished him the best. My daughter worries that these guys are axe murderers and I'll end up chopped up into bits in some desolated woods but it isn't as if I'm going to date them all - ha ha!
I'm not really into dating per se. I wouldn't mind having a running partner now that I dropped those pounds I picked up a few months ago or to have someone to see a movie with but then again sometimes men can just be so problematic, like having another child and I have people to hang out with as friends if I really feel the need - I don't. And then again men can be very amusing and entertaining and fun to chat with. I met a felloweor LJer by reading his journal on the site and enjoyed his wit so much I was laughing out loud. I love to laugh, love a good sense of humor and most especially love dry sarcastic humor.
Another one I met is a marine and I, being ex-Nancy Navy that I am, adore marines. He happens to be in Georgia though. I'm in Ohio. Well I mentioned that the distance would be a deterrent to a relationship so he replies: "I'm a Marine . . . I'm not afraid to travel." You've gotta love a response like that. He's really very compatible with me from all the questions we answered but then I'm not inclined to move down south again and certainly am not moving for a man.
On the other hand there are the men who live nearer to me, one who seems very nice and compatible about two hours away. He gave me his phone number as did the gentleman less than 30 minutes away. I don't call men. I'm really rather shy though I've never had problems meeting men. I don't see myself calling them. I've been single for a few years now, something I haven't actually been since I was fourteen! That's a long time! I'd break up with one guy and start seeing another one to get over the previous guy or either I'd just have another man asking me out and I'd start seeing him. I didn't need to have a man but I think being in the Navy being surrounded by men it was just hard not to be in a relationship, they far out numbered women.
Of course when I got out of the Navy I was married to my ex and we stayed married a long time. After the ex I met the Black Muslim/taxi driver an old friend but that didn't work out. The week I broke up with him I met the Firefighter and stayed with him for eight years. He was my Wolverine in a way, the dear, but of course he had to go. As dear as he was I just wasn't going to marry into a family of 20 plus siblings and watch him sing at shows and/or have him sing to me in front of people. It embarassed me. He said he was shy but he jumps up in front of people and performs? I know it was his profession when he was younger - he wasn't famous but did open for famous people and knows a lot of the good old groups like The Ohio Players, etc - but it was all too much for me.
So okcupid.com is an interesting place to visit, fun quizzes, interesting people to talk to, you can just be penpals if you like. You can im which is intriguing. I was at work getting pop ups, didn't realize why or what they were just saw a man's face and clicked it off. Finally I looked at one and it asked me if I was going to respond. I was really surprised. I couldn't really im men at work so I had to apologize and turn the im off. Very interesting. I'm rather enjoying the site. Who knows I or they might even meet a soulmate.