Much delayed ranting
Okay so this is completely just a rant about how stupid boys are. My favorite thing to complain about here. Of course. Guys seem to have gotten more skeezy as I've gotten older. Either they're just trying to sleep with me while I'm sober or I'm only good enough for them when they are drunk. It's getting old.
Literally I had met a nice guy, went out for drinks and were all good. Talked a lot the next few days then he asked to watch a movie and cuddle. Sounds all good and innocent for a second meeting but apparently I no longer know what the word cuddle means. Now it seems to mean spend five minutes with me and try to get my clothes off as fast as possible. Needless to say I walk out. I was clearly told that this wasn't his agenda but you can't change the obvious. I got a quick apology message after I left stating that we could have just cuddled but I rejected saying that it was not going to work anyways. I don't date guys who play off being nice who aren't.
A few nights later, someone I talk to at least once or twice a week mentioned having a dream with me in it. Like an end of the world dream and we were helping save people. And that was all he was "willing" to divulge. AKA there was obviously sex involved but that might be uncomfortable to admit to someone you used to date. So not long later, he asked when I'm free and we agreed to meet for a drink or food later that day. Later in the evening he was "drunk" and tried to leave. Me being responsible wouldn't let him until he'd sobered up a bit. Well remaining around resulted in him kissing me which I was completely good with yet when I stopped from continuing farther, he began apologizing and saying it was a stupid mistake. And here I thought I stopped it before anything stupid happened. Ugh. So the next day I was apologized to again and again clarified nothing stupid actually happened. Then me being a girl tried to figure out if the entire situation was a mistake or the fact that it happened drunk was the mistake. No response and he hasn't been online since. Damn passive males.
Lastly, my New York drunk dial had called a couple weeks ago after completely making an idiot of himself on a date and blacking out. At that point I put him on a drinking restriction. None while he's still on his medication. Basically I became his sponsor from a distance but not fully. Something is better than nothing right? Well he really hasn't called since which means either he was drinking again or was dating someone. Last night I found out it was the latter which I prefer but still not too happy to hear about because he's got a lot of issues he needs to solve before dating someone. I got my typical update on how great this girl is and how much he likes her, the usual with every girl he's into. At some point he asks if I'm okay and my response was that I always am. This should have been a hint that everything is not wonderful but he's always so wrapped into himself that I don't matter. For a man who claims he loves me all the time and wants me to come to New York, he doesn't know me at all. A few drinks later I said something to that fact, got a phone call which I didn't answer and a simple text apologizing.
Over the years I've come to a general opinion. The whole nice guys finish last statement is loaded with flaws. Most guys who consider themselves nice guys, aren't. Most guys I think are nice guys, aren't. It's not a matter of truly nice guys finishing last. It's a matter of delusional guys finishing last.
Literally I had met a nice guy, went out for drinks and were all good. Talked a lot the next few days then he asked to watch a movie and cuddle. Sounds all good and innocent for a second meeting but apparently I no longer know what the word cuddle means. Now it seems to mean spend five minutes with me and try to get my clothes off as fast as possible. Needless to say I walk out. I was clearly told that this wasn't his agenda but you can't change the obvious. I got a quick apology message after I left stating that we could have just cuddled but I rejected saying that it was not going to work anyways. I don't date guys who play off being nice who aren't.
A few nights later, someone I talk to at least once or twice a week mentioned having a dream with me in it. Like an end of the world dream and we were helping save people. And that was all he was "willing" to divulge. AKA there was obviously sex involved but that might be uncomfortable to admit to someone you used to date. So not long later, he asked when I'm free and we agreed to meet for a drink or food later that day. Later in the evening he was "drunk" and tried to leave. Me being responsible wouldn't let him until he'd sobered up a bit. Well remaining around resulted in him kissing me which I was completely good with yet when I stopped from continuing farther, he began apologizing and saying it was a stupid mistake. And here I thought I stopped it before anything stupid happened. Ugh. So the next day I was apologized to again and again clarified nothing stupid actually happened. Then me being a girl tried to figure out if the entire situation was a mistake or the fact that it happened drunk was the mistake. No response and he hasn't been online since. Damn passive males.
Lastly, my New York drunk dial had called a couple weeks ago after completely making an idiot of himself on a date and blacking out. At that point I put him on a drinking restriction. None while he's still on his medication. Basically I became his sponsor from a distance but not fully. Something is better than nothing right? Well he really hasn't called since which means either he was drinking again or was dating someone. Last night I found out it was the latter which I prefer but still not too happy to hear about because he's got a lot of issues he needs to solve before dating someone. I got my typical update on how great this girl is and how much he likes her, the usual with every girl he's into. At some point he asks if I'm okay and my response was that I always am. This should have been a hint that everything is not wonderful but he's always so wrapped into himself that I don't matter. For a man who claims he loves me all the time and wants me to come to New York, he doesn't know me at all. A few drinks later I said something to that fact, got a phone call which I didn't answer and a simple text apologizing.
Over the years I've come to a general opinion. The whole nice guys finish last statement is loaded with flaws. Most guys who consider themselves nice guys, aren't. Most guys I think are nice guys, aren't. It's not a matter of truly nice guys finishing last. It's a matter of delusional guys finishing last.