Poor Parenting
I'm not exactly an expert on being a parent. I know that I am going to make mistakes with Ava and John. I realize that sometimes what we feel is best for our kids may not be according to someone else...but I also know that there are a great many things that I will NEVER do as a parent. here are 10 examples.
10. I will never judge my child for making the same or similar mistakes that I have made. > I say this because my mother became pregnant at the age of 16. she lived in an unwed mothers home and it was the hardest thing she had ever had to go through because she had no support from her parents. Here I am, 24 years old, a university graduate, in a committed relationship, and at the beginning of a successful career, and my mom refused to talk to me for a week because I got pregnant. Hypocritical judgement has no place in good parenting.
9. I will never favor one child over the next. > This rule is because I have seen it in certain other households. The youngest chid gets EVERYTHING handed to her on a silver platter, including all the love in the world. The oldest child gets nothing without having to worry about what she will have to owe in return (probably her soul), and the middle boy is neglected to the point of needing to go to military school because he was never properly parented in the first place. He was simply left alone to do as he pleased. Terrible parenting skills.
8. I will never treat my children as a meal ticket. > I have seen many parents have child upon child without being able to support them financially or emotionally because they receive tax benefits. These kids are horribly abused, live in filthy conditions, and are shown absolutely no love at all. they might as well be kept in cages for all the
y are worth to the parents.
7. I will never hold my generosity over my child's head. > If my child ever needs help in any way, as a parent I will be obligated to help them without the benefit of a reward. Parenting is about love and sacrifice. God made the ultimate sacrifice for his children and we are taught to do the same. If my baby is cold, I'll die of hypothermia as I give them the shirt off my back for a blanket. My kids will NEVER be without whatever they need, and I will never hold that against them. to do so is selfish and inhumane.
6. I will never inappropriately beat, put down, or neglect my children. > these are all forms of abuse that are punishable by law...and I have seen all three in certain mothers who shall remain nameless. Hitting a child with a frying pan is inexcusable. throwing a table at a child is inexcusable. Allowing a 16 year old boy to wander the streets at 3 am is inexcusable. calling your child an idiot is inexcusable. Children have been taken away from their parents for less. I should no....I work for child protection. I;ve seen children come in with broken arms and legs that were caused by their respective sperm and egg donors. Not only will I never do it ,but I will never stand to see it in any other homes.
5. I will punish my child according to the crime. > If my child lies to me, they will be grounded until they learn to tell the truth. If my child beats up another child, they will do twice the amount of chores that week. If they are caught smoking, they will be grounded from seeing their friends for a week and they will have to volunteer at a cancer ward so they can see what their choices can lead too. etc... I will not ignore them because its easier, and I will not hit them (unless their four years old, reaching for a hot pan and need their fingers slapped as a warning)n
4. I will NEVER mooch off of my child's success. > If, God willing, My child becomes successful later in life, I will support them. I will make every effort to let them know just how proud I am of them. I will never try to gain anything from their success as I am the parent and they are the child and your children should never be expected to pay your bills, raise your other kids, or drop their own lives so that you can go on vacation.
3. I will never treat my children as slaves. > My kids will have chores in order to learn responsibility. They will not be expected to wait hand and foot on me or bow to my every whim. I will encourage them to question me and to learn why I do the things I do and ask certain things of them. I will encourage them to weigh their options and make good decisions rather than simply telling them what to do.
2. I will Never Belittle another human being in front of them. > The first thing that my children will learn is respect. they will learn to respect their parents, and they will learn to respect others regardless of their differences. I will not pass unfair, racist, disgusting judgments on others in front of my kids as it teaches them ignorance and pettiness. and if they learn ignorance from other means, I will redirect their opinions and teach them that this kind of behavior is unacceptable.
1. I will always love my child more than myself. > this one needs no explanation.
These are only a few of my parenting rules. But I feel that because of these I will be a far better parent than others that I have witnessed. Any parent who does not follow at least some of these rules (especially the ones pertaining to selfishness or abuse) should be shot in the face with a speeding shit bullet.
10. I will never judge my child for making the same or similar mistakes that I have made. > I say this because my mother became pregnant at the age of 16. she lived in an unwed mothers home and it was the hardest thing she had ever had to go through because she had no support from her parents. Here I am, 24 years old, a university graduate, in a committed relationship, and at the beginning of a successful career, and my mom refused to talk to me for a week because I got pregnant. Hypocritical judgement has no place in good parenting.
9. I will never favor one child over the next. > This rule is because I have seen it in certain other households. The youngest chid gets EVERYTHING handed to her on a silver platter, including all the love in the world. The oldest child gets nothing without having to worry about what she will have to owe in return (probably her soul), and the middle boy is neglected to the point of needing to go to military school because he was never properly parented in the first place. He was simply left alone to do as he pleased. Terrible parenting skills.
8. I will never treat my children as a meal ticket. > I have seen many parents have child upon child without being able to support them financially or emotionally because they receive tax benefits. These kids are horribly abused, live in filthy conditions, and are shown absolutely no love at all. they might as well be kept in cages for all the
y are worth to the parents.
7. I will never hold my generosity over my child's head. > If my child ever needs help in any way, as a parent I will be obligated to help them without the benefit of a reward. Parenting is about love and sacrifice. God made the ultimate sacrifice for his children and we are taught to do the same. If my baby is cold, I'll die of hypothermia as I give them the shirt off my back for a blanket. My kids will NEVER be without whatever they need, and I will never hold that against them. to do so is selfish and inhumane.
6. I will never inappropriately beat, put down, or neglect my children. > these are all forms of abuse that are punishable by law...and I have seen all three in certain mothers who shall remain nameless. Hitting a child with a frying pan is inexcusable. throwing a table at a child is inexcusable. Allowing a 16 year old boy to wander the streets at 3 am is inexcusable. calling your child an idiot is inexcusable. Children have been taken away from their parents for less. I should no....I work for child protection. I;ve seen children come in with broken arms and legs that were caused by their respective sperm and egg donors. Not only will I never do it ,but I will never stand to see it in any other homes.
5. I will punish my child according to the crime. > If my child lies to me, they will be grounded until they learn to tell the truth. If my child beats up another child, they will do twice the amount of chores that week. If they are caught smoking, they will be grounded from seeing their friends for a week and they will have to volunteer at a cancer ward so they can see what their choices can lead too. etc... I will not ignore them because its easier, and I will not hit them (unless their four years old, reaching for a hot pan and need their fingers slapped as a warning)n
4. I will NEVER mooch off of my child's success. > If, God willing, My child becomes successful later in life, I will support them. I will make every effort to let them know just how proud I am of them. I will never try to gain anything from their success as I am the parent and they are the child and your children should never be expected to pay your bills, raise your other kids, or drop their own lives so that you can go on vacation.
3. I will never treat my children as slaves. > My kids will have chores in order to learn responsibility. They will not be expected to wait hand and foot on me or bow to my every whim. I will encourage them to question me and to learn why I do the things I do and ask certain things of them. I will encourage them to weigh their options and make good decisions rather than simply telling them what to do.
2. I will Never Belittle another human being in front of them. > The first thing that my children will learn is respect. they will learn to respect their parents, and they will learn to respect others regardless of their differences. I will not pass unfair, racist, disgusting judgments on others in front of my kids as it teaches them ignorance and pettiness. and if they learn ignorance from other means, I will redirect their opinions and teach them that this kind of behavior is unacceptable.
1. I will always love my child more than myself. > this one needs no explanation.
These are only a few of my parenting rules. But I feel that because of these I will be a far better parent than others that I have witnessed. Any parent who does not follow at least some of these rules (especially the ones pertaining to selfishness or abuse) should be shot in the face with a speeding shit bullet.