A rant. Please ignore if you wish.
I'm upset about something that happened recently. hiromasaki went tux shopping with his groomsmen. Beforehand, we'd talked about what the tuxes might look like and I told him whatever he wanted to do was fine.
Not only did his groomsmen not listen to HIM when he said that this was our agreement, they called me because some assumed that I would not be happy with whatever he chose. First of all, I am not a bridezilla. In fact, I've worked very hard not to be, and while I have my moments of "I really have my heart set on having this a particular way," I have far more moments of hiromasaki and I deciding together (though this may require multiple phone calls during a time he is spending with his friends because it really couldn't wait), and hiromasaki deciding by himself. Planning a big wedding in the midst of practica, work, work, work, homework, dissertarion work, and school is stressful enough without anyone making it more difficult.
Second of all, I am tired of people assuming that I am out to run hiromasaki's life, take over, or remove him from any of the things he wants to do. Just because people's previous relationships have been like that does not mean ours is.
I love hiromasaki very much. He handles my neuroses, pushes me to be a better, stronger person, and never doubts my love for him. I am lucky to be marrying him and I know it. I work hard to be a good fiance, supporting him as best I can while being honest and pushing him to be a better person, too, however he should choose to do so. We are only starting a long life together, and there are tons of ways in which we will both learn how to better be together--it's a learning process.
I am a little angry and hurt because people I thought knew me clearly don't know me as well as I thought. So how about you shut your yaps when you don't know what the hell you're talking about.
Not only did his groomsmen not listen to HIM when he said that this was our agreement, they called me because some assumed that I would not be happy with whatever he chose. First of all, I am not a bridezilla. In fact, I've worked very hard not to be, and while I have my moments of "I really have my heart set on having this a particular way," I have far more moments of hiromasaki and I deciding together (though this may require multiple phone calls during a time he is spending with his friends because it really couldn't wait), and hiromasaki deciding by himself. Planning a big wedding in the midst of practica, work, work, work, homework, dissertarion work, and school is stressful enough without anyone making it more difficult.
Second of all, I am tired of people assuming that I am out to run hiromasaki's life, take over, or remove him from any of the things he wants to do. Just because people's previous relationships have been like that does not mean ours is.
I love hiromasaki very much. He handles my neuroses, pushes me to be a better, stronger person, and never doubts my love for him. I am lucky to be marrying him and I know it. I work hard to be a good fiance, supporting him as best I can while being honest and pushing him to be a better person, too, however he should choose to do so. We are only starting a long life together, and there are tons of ways in which we will both learn how to better be together--it's a learning process.
I am a little angry and hurt because people I thought knew me clearly don't know me as well as I thought. So how about you shut your yaps when you don't know what the hell you're talking about.