Gender identification, expression, and stratification.
Another update that isn't necessarily about my life! And a public one too. It's one of those pensive entries where your thoughts on the subject would be even more valued than usual (which is already a lot on its own
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I don't think boys should have toy guns either, and thankfully my parents didn't really allow us to have any, because they didn't want us to grow up violently. It was always more a problem with my brother, who's obsessed with the Marines and was determined on joining it before my aunt gave him a preposition to stay.
It's particularly interesting that you bring up the "nerd" part. I think you and I are some of the special cases, being gay men of color. People would typecast us to be aggressive, ill-mannered, and pretty inconsiderate, but when they see how chill and in-tune we are with ourselves, they go into thinking one of two (or both) things: "oreo" (you have no idea how much I ABHOR this label) or "gay." "Nerd" can be categorized with the whole "oreo" thing, but anyway... we pretty much had the same situation. In fact, the only people that really gave me any crap about being gay were other POC's LOL.
And for so many years, I've tried looking for good gay representation too! We really are the same person. I've read yaoi, gay-themed books (some of which have been the most enjoyable reads), looking for movies with male-male love, lurking the hell out of gay blogs and sites (let's just say that AfterElton and I have had quite the relationship before), etc. I think it's important to know what you're perceived as, but to also not lose your sense of self in any representation. I'm not usually the advocate of "labels don't matter," because I find them to be too realistic to avoid, but lebels can be circumvented. It just takes people with some brains to look past them.
Also, I knew about the Wonder Woman show and am SO glad that it's not going through. Adrianne Palicky or whatever her name was... WAS SO SCRAWNY. It would have hurt my heart to see her being the woman that I consider perfect. I hope the movie ends up being good too.
AND YES, NOAH IS PERFECTION TBH.
Thanks for commenting. <3
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