SG1 rec, feminism, and pretty glammed-up boys.
I'm feeling babbly today.
* Investigation into the effects of zat'ni'ktel fire on the common Peep, by Dr. Samantha Carter. (Look, nothing with a title like that needs a detailed rec, okay?)
* Fucking While Feminist, an interview over at The Sexist (and yesterday's follow up, on litmus tests). I kind of want to just throw this out there somewhere in fandom and say "discuss," because I really want to hear people talk about it and I know I don't have that kind of readership here.
What I do know is that my reactions to this are completely different than they would have been three years ago-- the difference being that three years ago I was dating somebody who will trivialize things that I think are important concerns, who believes my right to bodily autonomy isn't necessarily absolute, who engages in some casual homophobia, who would have blamed me at least a little bit if I had been raped, who had a bit of a Madonna/whore complex and issues with me having a high sex drive-- it makes a far greater difference than I could possibly have anticipated. I feel like I'm cheating with The Boy now, to be honest, now that I don't have to dodge around some topics, now that I don't spend so much time thinking "men are just like that, it's just what you have to deal with if you want a relationship," now that I don't end up constantly weighing what's worth fighting about versus what I should just put up with.
I feel like the rug is going to get pulled out from under me at any second, because in my experience, men just aren't like that- and sometimes I wonder how the hell I'll ever make male friends, when I move and start trying to meet people again, given that I think The Boy may have spoiled me well past any ability to make those compromises.
* OMG YOU GUYS there is Johnny Weir/Apolo Ohno porn. I just *hands* It exists on the internet, because fandom loves me and will never fail me. And it's actually good, with this fabulous outsider perspective on Johnny Being Johnny and it has Johnny/Stephane.
* I have a hard time with Adam Lambert because he's actually too raunchy for me. I mean, I totally get why fangirls love him- both the icky (fetishization of gay boys) and the rebellious (he's just so fierce and all that gay-boy-raunchy right there in the open feels like a big fat Fuck You right where it's most needed, you know? Or that's just me) and the completely obvious (the boy can sing and the boy can move). It's just that this sort of thing falls so clearly into the realm of "fap material" for me, not "light entertainment."
But since my difficulties with Adam have to do with his videos being a little Too Much, it turns out that putting his music on my iPod leads to me singing the entire album three times straight through until I can sing all the raunchiest bits. *facepalm* I defy anyone who likes boys to listen to "For Your Entertainment" and not get a little wet. "Strut" is my new official "dancing around in my underwear with an imaginary mic" song. Oh baby, I wanna see you STRUT. I just. What. The. Fuck. I can't even. Adam.
I have to learn not to try to resist these things!
* My secret shame: Dancing With The Stars (Really, I love this show so much it's ridiculous. This is only the fourth season I've watched- it's not exactly an enduring love- but it just Pleases Me). Anyway, is it just me, or are Evan and Nicole in just a totally different competition from the others? (EVAN! Oh, Evan, you are winning me over with frightening ease) And also, is anyone else completely shocked at ho,w good Pamela Anderson is?
Plus, I think Buzz Aldrin's partner deserves huge props. She's done a great job choreographing things they can actually dance together (many female pros with terrible male stars just have the guy stand still while they show off) and costuming them well and taking something that could have been embarrassing and instead making it very sweet and positive.
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* Investigation into the effects of zat'ni'ktel fire on the common Peep, by Dr. Samantha Carter. (Look, nothing with a title like that needs a detailed rec, okay?)
* Fucking While Feminist, an interview over at The Sexist (and yesterday's follow up, on litmus tests). I kind of want to just throw this out there somewhere in fandom and say "discuss," because I really want to hear people talk about it and I know I don't have that kind of readership here.
What I do know is that my reactions to this are completely different than they would have been three years ago-- the difference being that three years ago I was dating somebody who will trivialize things that I think are important concerns, who believes my right to bodily autonomy isn't necessarily absolute, who engages in some casual homophobia, who would have blamed me at least a little bit if I had been raped, who had a bit of a Madonna/whore complex and issues with me having a high sex drive-- it makes a far greater difference than I could possibly have anticipated. I feel like I'm cheating with The Boy now, to be honest, now that I don't have to dodge around some topics, now that I don't spend so much time thinking "men are just like that, it's just what you have to deal with if you want a relationship," now that I don't end up constantly weighing what's worth fighting about versus what I should just put up with.
I feel like the rug is going to get pulled out from under me at any second, because in my experience, men just aren't like that- and sometimes I wonder how the hell I'll ever make male friends, when I move and start trying to meet people again, given that I think The Boy may have spoiled me well past any ability to make those compromises.
* OMG YOU GUYS there is Johnny Weir/Apolo Ohno porn. I just *hands* It exists on the internet, because fandom loves me and will never fail me. And it's actually good, with this fabulous outsider perspective on Johnny Being Johnny and it has Johnny/Stephane.
* I have a hard time with Adam Lambert because he's actually too raunchy for me. I mean, I totally get why fangirls love him- both the icky (fetishization of gay boys) and the rebellious (he's just so fierce and all that gay-boy-raunchy right there in the open feels like a big fat Fuck You right where it's most needed, you know? Or that's just me) and the completely obvious (the boy can sing and the boy can move). It's just that this sort of thing falls so clearly into the realm of "fap material" for me, not "light entertainment."
But since my difficulties with Adam have to do with his videos being a little Too Much, it turns out that putting his music on my iPod leads to me singing the entire album three times straight through until I can sing all the raunchiest bits. *facepalm* I defy anyone who likes boys to listen to "For Your Entertainment" and not get a little wet. "Strut" is my new official "dancing around in my underwear with an imaginary mic" song. Oh baby, I wanna see you STRUT. I just. What. The. Fuck. I can't even. Adam.
I have to learn not to try to resist these things!
* My secret shame: Dancing With The Stars (Really, I love this show so much it's ridiculous. This is only the fourth season I've watched- it's not exactly an enduring love- but it just Pleases Me). Anyway, is it just me, or are Evan and Nicole in just a totally different competition from the others? (EVAN! Oh, Evan, you are winning me over with frightening ease) And also, is anyone else completely shocked at ho,w good Pamela Anderson is?
Plus, I think Buzz Aldrin's partner deserves huge props. She's done a great job choreographing things they can actually dance together (many female pros with terrible male stars just have the guy stand still while they show off) and costuming them well and taking something that could have been embarrassing and instead making it very sweet and positive.
This entry was originally posted at http://dragojustine.dreamwidth.org/117033.html. Please comment there using OpenID.