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Ive come to accept the fact that there is a good chance I will never get married. My limb of the family tree does not seem to support that institution, though my parents have had success in other aspects of their lives, mainly business, despite the fact. Who pissed off the wicked witched that cursed my mothers parents
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the reason why divorce is such a regular occurrence (in our Country, at least) nowadays is because:
1.) Woman gets knocked up, couple think that just because they have a baby they HAVE to get married.
2.) People fall in love, think that getting married is what they are suppose to do, and ultimately think that being married means they don't have to do jack shit to keep their relationship as healthy as it was before they were married.
A lot of people just assume Paul and I got married because of Marlowe, but truth be told if I didn't know without a doubt that he was the only one I want to be with for the rest of my years, I would never have gone down that path. I think if you are not right for one another you are doing your child a disservice by staying together, especially since having a child can bring out the worst in people if it's not the right situation (and sometimes, even when it is--God knows Paul has seen the worst of me... thanks to hormones, lack of sleep, etc.) I mean--yeah, it's hard to be a kid in a situation where you're either with mom or you're with dad and never both, BUT you don't want to give your child this impression that this is what love is all about--yelling, fighting, resentment, etc. When my parents started doing all of that (and yeah, they got married because my mom was pregnant) it was just the CRAZIEST thing to me. I mean, one minute Im 5 and telling them to quit making out in the kitchen and the next minute Im 9 and they are ready to kill one another. Now that they are finally getting divorced I am getting the real story behind everything... how my mom could never trust my dad, this that and the other. I am glad that they stayed together in the sense that I got to, you know, be alive and all that, but it's just kind of a bummer that someone as awesome as my mom kind of "wasted" 30 years of her life (of course they weren't entirely wasted, because she was pretty happy a lot of the time and she got her 3 kids out of it and all that jazz)
Anyhow, on that second note, people continue to evolve and change every day that they are alive. Things happen to them that change how they feel and think and look. If you don't keep up with one another, pretty soon a few years pass and you don't know the person who you're living/sharing all this stuff/having kids with. You still have to talk, you still have to date, you still have to have time with one another and you still have to work at impressing one another just like you do when you are dating. People put on a big show when they are dating to try to make themselves look better than they really are on an average, normal day. Im not saying that dudes need to buy their wives flowers EVERY DAY, but I mean, it's not fair that some guys act like prince charming when they are dating a woman but then they get married and think they dont need to do that anymore, every once in awhile at least. Same with the woman involved. Don't try to win a guy over by cooking him dinner all the time and once you get married opt for take out and crap every night. I don't know, does that make sense? It just seems like so many people have something that goes off in their brain that says they are free to act however they want once they are married and although you should always be yourself, you should still be as good to your spouse as you were before you made your vows.
Don't worry about marriage right now. I know that's pretty much impossible, but Im going to urge you not to do it anyway, haha. I guess that sounds kind of retarded coming from someone who IS married, but seriously. You're so freaking young and there is so much time. You are too pretty, intelligent, and all around awesome for the opportunity to get married to someone as equally awesome to completely pass-you-by. It'll come if you want it. Nooo worries!
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b.) i totally comprehend and agree with everything you said, and i will provide a substantial response when i have more time. <33 xx see you in a bit
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