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And it's telling me, "Go forward and walk under a brighter sky…"

Apr 03, 2009 09:45

I am moving to the Phoenix area.

Following my boss's advice that I should go where I want to be and then find work from there, I'll be heading down after my lease here runs up at the end of July. I will be living with a host of lovelies - Jaqui, Aubrey, Rebecca - who are being especially lovely by handling the house-search for me. (This is a ( Read more... )

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squeemu April 3 2009, 15:46:30 UTC

That's awesome! I heard from Baco that you were thinking about moving to California, but I'm glad you've settled on someplace you want to go. I'm excited to hear about how it all goes! And am also really excited to moving too.

ALTHOUGH IOWA IS SOUNDING PRETTY AWESOME RIGHT NOW

Also ahahahaha oh god I can't believe the horrors America TV inflicts on everything good. I had to look it up on Wikipedia before it started filtering through my WTF filters.

draegonhawke April 3 2009, 15:51:34 UTC

I KNOW. I AM SO PROUD OF MY LITTLE MIDWESTERN SOY STATE. THIRD IN THE NATION.

But it gives me such hope, because damn. If IOWA can do it...

Hopefully by the time I'm even considering marriage, more places will have passed laws. But, honestly, it's not the same-sex thing that gets me the most, it's the assumption of emotional monogamy. I love more than one person! I don't want to enter into a contract saying one of these is the pinnacle and excludes all others!

...but I imagine we've a long way to go before issues of that sort see their way to courts or legislatures.

squeemu April 3 2009, 18:01:46 UTC

I know! The hope! Oh, Iowa! ♥

I'm really excited about the same-sex thing, because we are actually thinking about it? Plus it would make the whole getting a job in a foreign country issue easier (...except NOT because of DOMA but whatever). And yeah, even though I'm emotionally monogamous by nature, I think it's pretty dumb to restrict people to just one person. I mean, obviously you should try and make sure the other people aren't monogamous by nature too, but that's just common sense.

Yeah, it's one of those things people point at as something EVEN MORE ATROCIOUSLY DISTURBING THAN TWO PEOPLE OF THE SAME SEX BEING IN LOVE! HORROR ...so yeah. I'm a thinkin' that one's gonna take awhile.

AND NOW I AM LATE FOR WORK SO I NEED TO GO

draegonhawke April 3 2009, 18:16:40 UTC

Hee!I hope that wherever you settle down will have friendly laws by the time you're looking at it. (If you want me to be a bridesmade, however, I am WEARING a tux.)

Yeah. For some reason, people still think of polygamy as part of the nadir of sexual deviance, down with pedophilia and bestiality. (Because people are unable to rationally consent if the number jumps from two to three? I don't know.) And in my case, it's not even that I'd be running off and having OMG ORGIES or something - uh, hi, asexuality. (Which I suppose might prompt some people to ask why I'd ever consider getting married in the first place, and then I'd have to beat them with the "MARRIAGE DOES NOT REDUCE TO SEX, FOOLS" card the gay community has had to carry for so long.) I just... don't lost the capacity to love people romantically after forming one romantic attachment.

It's about - as with any other romantic relationship, hell, as with any other human relationship - communication and mutual respect and understanding. It's not inherently wrong or ( ... )

squeemu April 4 2009, 02:01:37 UTC

Me too! (I am not sure there will be any bridesmaids, but you are totally welcome to come in a tuxedo anyway. Maybe we'll have a ...groomman... in a dress! oh god I don't know anything about weddings)

I just don't get it! What -- I mean -- bah. I don't know. It's kind of sad that people are so intolerant towards loving LOTS of people. OMG WHAT KIND OF PERVERT ARE YOU, THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF LOVING MULTIPLE PEOPLE. (I am kind of wondering at the mechanics of marriage with the possibility of more than two people. Would it be sort of open-ended, so you could update it as more people came?) (Also I'm kind of wondering about how you approach marriage and love and romantic love. Because I know you have issues with platonic love vs. romantic love -- or at least you did? -- man this is an awkward question. But I'm curious what your philosophy is now! And how it relates to marriage?)

Exactly.

draegonhawke April 4 2009, 03:17:56 UTC

Ffff. My philosophy right now is to throw up my hands and say God and/or World, do what thou wilt. I don't know. The boundaries between platonic and romantic love sometimes seem to be defined by expression rather than composition; action rather than substance. I still think that using someone to reflect your love of love back onto you is juvenile and should not be mistaken for healthy human interaction, but one can be platonic and physical and one can be romantic and nonphysical and aside from some small tweaks in qualia, unless you are going to chop it up into courting and non-courting loves... yeah ( ... )

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