Going to the Chapel...
Planning a wedding is hard.
We have themes and idea about what time of the year to have the wedding, but we have to find the right venue. And this is no easy task.
Online today, I found a venue I fell in love with. The only problem is that they do not accept outside catering and, though their food looks amazing, it is just not feasible to serve their food. The cost of their most frugal dinner for 100 people (I would like a smaller wedding, but I am using 100 as an estimate until we get the guest list sorted) costs almost what I wanted our budget to be.
God, maybe I should just let my dad pay for the wedding. It's ridiculous!
In a perfect world, I would find a cute and moderately-priced venue that holds the amount of people I need, will let me bring in my own caterer, and will provide the basics of decorations and let me take it from there.
I have so many ideas for decor and wedding favours that I would like to make, but a lot of wedding venues are really strict about what you can and cannot do. It's really very frustrating.
I want to combine the wedding ceremony and reception and dinner into one. I would like it to be a party; people come in, have fun, have some snacks and drinks, then the music goes off and we say our vows (20 minutes tops) before the party resumes and dinner comes out. This is exactly how I want my wedding to go. The problem is that NOBODY DOES THIS so venues and coordinators don't like it. They want to follow their plans.
I'd like to have an October wedding, ideally the day before Hallowe'en. We'd like to have a Hallowe'en-themed wedding, and for the wedding party, we would all dress up in 30's/40's vintage looks; Eric in a pinstriped, wide-tailored suit (maybe a fedora!) and me in a glamorous dress I am designing. The groomsmen would also be in swanky suits, complete with fedoras and spats, and my bridesmaids would all be wearing pretty dresses with faux fur stoles and pearls and kitten heels. Guests could come however they like, they could be dressed up for a wedding, dressed up in our theme, or even come in a Hallowe'en costume! Instead of a regular dessert table, I'd like to set up a table of those trick-or-treating buckets filled with tons of crazy candy. For a cake, I would love a red velvet cake with chocolate icing tinted almost black, even cupcakes would be cool. Aw, could you imagine cute little candy devil horns on the cupcakes? *SQUEE!*
I would like to rent a hall and have someone come in to cater it, I would decorate it with the help of friends and family. I am still unsure about a lot of things, what I need and don't need. I am finding websites that say I need this or that and it costs x amount, but I want to pare down costs as much as possible. I don't really want flowers; they are expensive and I am allergic to a lot of them. I might have some as accents, but I think the majority of the centerpieces will be handmade by me.
My father and stepmother want to have my grandma's wedding wings. She says as the oldest grandchild, I have a right to them. I might keep the diamonds and have them put into a new ring, as I don't wear yellow gold, and my fingers are much bigger than hers. I love the thought of having a part of history in my ring though.
I wish my Mom lived here so she could help me plan this wedding. My stepmom would, but she lives in the other end of the city, and it's hard to coordinate these things. I might see if I can go visit them whenever Eric is visiting his daughter and I don't go (I go every two weeks to give them Daddy-daughter time, even though they want me to go every weekend. I just think it's important that they have their time. Also, she exhausts me!)
Actually, yeah, that is a good idea, I will ask her about that.
We have themes and idea about what time of the year to have the wedding, but we have to find the right venue. And this is no easy task.
Online today, I found a venue I fell in love with. The only problem is that they do not accept outside catering and, though their food looks amazing, it is just not feasible to serve their food. The cost of their most frugal dinner for 100 people (I would like a smaller wedding, but I am using 100 as an estimate until we get the guest list sorted) costs almost what I wanted our budget to be.
God, maybe I should just let my dad pay for the wedding. It's ridiculous!
In a perfect world, I would find a cute and moderately-priced venue that holds the amount of people I need, will let me bring in my own caterer, and will provide the basics of decorations and let me take it from there.
I have so many ideas for decor and wedding favours that I would like to make, but a lot of wedding venues are really strict about what you can and cannot do. It's really very frustrating.
I want to combine the wedding ceremony and reception and dinner into one. I would like it to be a party; people come in, have fun, have some snacks and drinks, then the music goes off and we say our vows (20 minutes tops) before the party resumes and dinner comes out. This is exactly how I want my wedding to go. The problem is that NOBODY DOES THIS so venues and coordinators don't like it. They want to follow their plans.
I'd like to have an October wedding, ideally the day before Hallowe'en. We'd like to have a Hallowe'en-themed wedding, and for the wedding party, we would all dress up in 30's/40's vintage looks; Eric in a pinstriped, wide-tailored suit (maybe a fedora!) and me in a glamorous dress I am designing. The groomsmen would also be in swanky suits, complete with fedoras and spats, and my bridesmaids would all be wearing pretty dresses with faux fur stoles and pearls and kitten heels. Guests could come however they like, they could be dressed up for a wedding, dressed up in our theme, or even come in a Hallowe'en costume! Instead of a regular dessert table, I'd like to set up a table of those trick-or-treating buckets filled with tons of crazy candy. For a cake, I would love a red velvet cake with chocolate icing tinted almost black, even cupcakes would be cool. Aw, could you imagine cute little candy devil horns on the cupcakes? *SQUEE!*
I would like to rent a hall and have someone come in to cater it, I would decorate it with the help of friends and family. I am still unsure about a lot of things, what I need and don't need. I am finding websites that say I need this or that and it costs x amount, but I want to pare down costs as much as possible. I don't really want flowers; they are expensive and I am allergic to a lot of them. I might have some as accents, but I think the majority of the centerpieces will be handmade by me.
My father and stepmother want to have my grandma's wedding wings. She says as the oldest grandchild, I have a right to them. I might keep the diamonds and have them put into a new ring, as I don't wear yellow gold, and my fingers are much bigger than hers. I love the thought of having a part of history in my ring though.
I wish my Mom lived here so she could help me plan this wedding. My stepmom would, but she lives in the other end of the city, and it's hard to coordinate these things. I might see if I can go visit them whenever Eric is visiting his daughter and I don't go (I go every two weeks to give them Daddy-daughter time, even though they want me to go every weekend. I just think it's important that they have their time. Also, she exhausts me!)
Actually, yeah, that is a good idea, I will ask her about that.