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Personality clashes, tension, differing opinions are all unavoidable at some point in group settings. Sometimes they are minor and fixable. Other times you have to face facts that you can not make it perfect.
It's ok to not have everyone agree on an issue. It's ok that not everyone are friends, or even like each other. It's ok that there are several strong willed people in the group.
It's not ok to purposely exclude the people you dislike from being able to participate in official functions. It's not ok to spread lies. Because you don't get along with someone is not a good reason to disregard genuine offers of help to the group. Do not publicly humiliate members intentionally. If you think someone has done somthing intentionally to you that you did not like...discuss it with them. Perhaps there intent was comepletely different than how you took the action.
Sometimes you just need to step outside and take a second look. Often the opposing sides really aren't that far apart in what they want.
When holding office in a group consider the history of the group. Do not just consider what you think is the history. Talk to others. However make sure you talk to the people outside your own clique. However don't pretend to like someone if you really don't(those who hate you can see through it and it agitates them more). Remember that time clouds the memory and reasonable judgement. Talk to previous officers. Perhaps what you thought happened is not what they thought happened. Perhaps some of the flaming and tension occurring could be relieved by talking face to face. Perhaps the previous officers did talk to people and have general populace backing before undertaking something. People's opinions can be changed. Threats are not the way to bring on good changes.
Do not deny what you did in the past. However if you do not want the errors of your past held against you, then do not hold others' errors against them. Realize that people have different sets of values. You may have several people that think your path is right and true and the others are just trying to destroy your group. Consider that your opposition may feel the same towards your clique.
Yes, conflict can drive people away. Interestingly it can also cause people to stay. However, total conformity for prolonged periods of time can also cause people to leave.
It is impossible to please everyone...but only trying to please those you like just causes trouble...and can make you seem the bad guy.
*****please note that these are my thoughts and while they are partially reflections upon my time in one group more than others...they do partain to other groups as well. Also I have been on both sides of the issues i have presented. I tend to overanalyze everything. I realize my own faults...so you don't nee to point them out again.
It's ok to not have everyone agree on an issue. It's ok that not everyone are friends, or even like each other. It's ok that there are several strong willed people in the group.
It's not ok to purposely exclude the people you dislike from being able to participate in official functions. It's not ok to spread lies. Because you don't get along with someone is not a good reason to disregard genuine offers of help to the group. Do not publicly humiliate members intentionally. If you think someone has done somthing intentionally to you that you did not like...discuss it with them. Perhaps there intent was comepletely different than how you took the action.
Sometimes you just need to step outside and take a second look. Often the opposing sides really aren't that far apart in what they want.
When holding office in a group consider the history of the group. Do not just consider what you think is the history. Talk to others. However make sure you talk to the people outside your own clique. However don't pretend to like someone if you really don't(those who hate you can see through it and it agitates them more). Remember that time clouds the memory and reasonable judgement. Talk to previous officers. Perhaps what you thought happened is not what they thought happened. Perhaps some of the flaming and tension occurring could be relieved by talking face to face. Perhaps the previous officers did talk to people and have general populace backing before undertaking something. People's opinions can be changed. Threats are not the way to bring on good changes.
Do not deny what you did in the past. However if you do not want the errors of your past held against you, then do not hold others' errors against them. Realize that people have different sets of values. You may have several people that think your path is right and true and the others are just trying to destroy your group. Consider that your opposition may feel the same towards your clique.
Yes, conflict can drive people away. Interestingly it can also cause people to stay. However, total conformity for prolonged periods of time can also cause people to leave.
It is impossible to please everyone...but only trying to please those you like just causes trouble...and can make you seem the bad guy.
*****please note that these are my thoughts and while they are partially reflections upon my time in one group more than others...they do partain to other groups as well. Also I have been on both sides of the issues i have presented. I tend to overanalyze everything. I realize my own faults...so you don't nee to point them out again.