question for ya!
I need to know how to advise my daughter wisely on an issue concerning Ayden..my grandson, so I thought this might be a good place to come!!
OK..she and Ayden's dad are not married, and have never been married, and Im sure will never marry, and thats alright..
back when she got pregnant, her relationship with Bobby was very bad..there was nothing but bad things involved with the two of them being together...but he had a near death experience too...he was shot in the head last year over some money...I suspect more..but that's what Ive been told...anyway, he did survive and will tell you today that going thru that was the best thing that ever happened to him because it really did wake him up to the kind of life he was living...and I have talked to him and it truly is a miracle to see this young man now compared to what he used to be. The disability he now has wasnt the worst thing in the world that couldve happened to him.
Anyway..back to the question...after he was shot...Ashley of course was at the hospital with him, and then told him about Ayden..Long story short...he recovers nicely, and truly does want to be a part of Ayden's life, and now he is a very good dad..he does live at his mom's house, and she is a wonderful grandma, and the whole thing has turned out to be good for Ayden. Bobby is just now getting his disability to where Ayden will benefit from it, and he is even going to be getting some back child support as well.
So there is a good relationship between all for the sake of Ayden. We are all friendly with each other, etc etc, but Ashley and Bobby will never be a couple as far as getting married or anything like that. Bobby has a strong desire though to have Ayden have his last name. I dont see that that should really be a problem, because I dont know anything about those kinds of laws. Terry (my hubby) is a little against it because he thinks that if they give Ayden his dad's last name that it will empower them to take Ayden away from Ashley should things ever go south for whatever reason.
My question basically is ..Is there any risk in giving my grandson the last name of the dad?? Ashley is asking me all of this,and Im honestly quite ignorant about those kinds of things. Never have dealt with anything like that, so I want to be sure and advise her right. I told her basically to talk to a lawyer to be sure of her rights since I dont know.
thanks already for your advise!
OK..she and Ayden's dad are not married, and have never been married, and Im sure will never marry, and thats alright..
back when she got pregnant, her relationship with Bobby was very bad..there was nothing but bad things involved with the two of them being together...but he had a near death experience too...he was shot in the head last year over some money...I suspect more..but that's what Ive been told...anyway, he did survive and will tell you today that going thru that was the best thing that ever happened to him because it really did wake him up to the kind of life he was living...and I have talked to him and it truly is a miracle to see this young man now compared to what he used to be. The disability he now has wasnt the worst thing in the world that couldve happened to him.
Anyway..back to the question...after he was shot...Ashley of course was at the hospital with him, and then told him about Ayden..Long story short...he recovers nicely, and truly does want to be a part of Ayden's life, and now he is a very good dad..he does live at his mom's house, and she is a wonderful grandma, and the whole thing has turned out to be good for Ayden. Bobby is just now getting his disability to where Ayden will benefit from it, and he is even going to be getting some back child support as well.
So there is a good relationship between all for the sake of Ayden. We are all friendly with each other, etc etc, but Ashley and Bobby will never be a couple as far as getting married or anything like that. Bobby has a strong desire though to have Ayden have his last name. I dont see that that should really be a problem, because I dont know anything about those kinds of laws. Terry (my hubby) is a little against it because he thinks that if they give Ayden his dad's last name that it will empower them to take Ayden away from Ashley should things ever go south for whatever reason.
My question basically is ..Is there any risk in giving my grandson the last name of the dad?? Ashley is asking me all of this,and Im honestly quite ignorant about those kinds of things. Never have dealt with anything like that, so I want to be sure and advise her right. I told her basically to talk to a lawyer to be sure of her rights since I dont know.
thanks already for your advise!