Excerpts from D Miguel Ruiz “The Mastery of Love”
Sharing some thoughts of wisdom..
We all know what we are. We are humans on the earth to live, love and make more humans and finally die.
So the key is, how do we want to feel during the journey? Filled with Love or Fear?
It’s not about being alone or with someone, it’s about being happy and in love with yourself.
Happiness is to know who we are as individuals, to know thy self and accept it, no conditions.
If you love yourself first, people flock to the love you emit from within, and want to be around you.
Someone who loves themselves is attractive physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Ever been around a guy and gal who you knew was really in love? They are somehow different?
Silly, light hearted, at play, carefree in touch with their inner child, honest and open, glowing, high on life.
So why is that, temporary insanity?
Of course not, it’s very simple. For a period in time, that couple have accepted themselves and
each other unconditionally. Like a mother with their newborn child? No matter what the situation,
conditions, looks of the newborn child, its pure unconditional love between them. Arguably, it’s why
a mother would go through it again just to experience that level of love.
So what happens?
The main reason we find this natural love so illusive in adult hood is because we don’t accept
ourselves. From sometime around 7 or 8 years old we begin build an inventory of self judgments.
We begin formulating and reinforcing our “programmed self image” over years of repetitive negativity and criticism
through adulthood that we are “not good enough” or handsome or pretty or smart or thin or whatever!
The more influential the person is or was in our lives the stronger the programs we form.
Those are the essence of what we use as individuals over and over in “self judgment”. If you hear it enough
you believe it, if you say it or get angry with yourself because nothing has changed you believe it more.
The circle continues over and over to “self judge” ourselves and trying to be someone
we wish we could be, have been told we should be or based on social stereotypes, as “normal” or acceptable,
instead of accepting “who we really are” and not trying to be what anyone else thinks we should be.
How do we break the cycle?
You must really and truly accept we are not perfect. Sounds easy, but it’s the hardest thing you will ever do!
Except those things you cannot change those things they cannot be controlled and find the inner beauty instead
of the punishing self judge than only adds to the list of emotional baggage that keeps from attaining happiness.
Each person is responsible for their own emotional health, and personal acceptance. Encouragement, respect giving
your partner space to work thought their individual happiness is ok, don’t take it personal, there is nothing personal about it.
Each is reasonable for their own happiness and your partner or friends are responsible for theirs.
Do not pity and feeling sorry for someone. It is much more beneficial to support and encourage than reinforce that negative.
It’s a battle, and ultimate happiness is the spoils if successful.
You cannot give away your happiness to someone. It is always a futile attempt to bring happiness to someone else.
You can’t be successtul in the long run. Successful partners share there individual happiness with each other
not use, or drain the others happiness or attempt to live on the others happiness.
If you rely on yourself for true happiness, and not on others to “make you” happy you will never be sad.
Each person is unique and different than anyone else. I am accepted by many for being uniqueness
and shunned by others. Never take it personal, my love is mine, it’s never given away to anyone only shared.
Those who don’t or can’t accept my uniqueness’s can’t share my love, because it will be constantly judged
based on my uniqueness and their inability to accept me for who I am.
If you get mad at someone you can walk away or get mad back and retaliate. How do you do that if, the major issue that is making you mad, sad or afraid is how your preserve or judge yourself?
You can’t run away or retaliate, right?
Wrong!!!! We do it to our self’s all the time!
Excerpts from D Miguel Ruiz “The Mastery of Love”
We all know what we are. We are humans on the earth to live, love and make more humans and finally die.
So the key is, how do we want to feel during the journey? Filled with Love or Fear?
It’s not about being alone or with someone, it’s about being happy and in love with yourself.
Happiness is to know who we are as individuals, to know thy self and accept it, no conditions.
If you love yourself first, people flock to the love you emit from within, and want to be around you.
Someone who loves themselves is attractive physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Ever been around a guy and gal who you knew was really in love? They are somehow different?
Silly, light hearted, at play, carefree in touch with their inner child, honest and open, glowing, high on life.
So why is that, temporary insanity?
Of course not, it’s very simple. For a period in time, that couple have accepted themselves and
each other unconditionally. Like a mother with their newborn child? No matter what the situation,
conditions, looks of the newborn child, its pure unconditional love between them. Arguably, it’s why
a mother would go through it again just to experience that level of love.
So what happens?
The main reason we find this natural love so illusive in adult hood is because we don’t accept
ourselves. From sometime around 7 or 8 years old we begin build an inventory of self judgments.
We begin formulating and reinforcing our “programmed self image” over years of repetitive negativity and criticism
through adulthood that we are “not good enough” or handsome or pretty or smart or thin or whatever!
The more influential the person is or was in our lives the stronger the programs we form.
Those are the essence of what we use as individuals over and over in “self judgment”. If you hear it enough
you believe it, if you say it or get angry with yourself because nothing has changed you believe it more.
The circle continues over and over to “self judge” ourselves and trying to be someone
we wish we could be, have been told we should be or based on social stereotypes, as “normal” or acceptable,
instead of accepting “who we really are” and not trying to be what anyone else thinks we should be.
How do we break the cycle?
You must really and truly accept we are not perfect. Sounds easy, but it’s the hardest thing you will ever do!
Except those things you cannot change those things they cannot be controlled and find the inner beauty instead
of the punishing self judge than only adds to the list of emotional baggage that keeps from attaining happiness.
Each person is responsible for their own emotional health, and personal acceptance. Encouragement, respect giving
your partner space to work thought their individual happiness is ok, don’t take it personal, there is nothing personal about it.
Each is reasonable for their own happiness and your partner or friends are responsible for theirs.
Do not pity and feeling sorry for someone. It is much more beneficial to support and encourage than reinforce that negative.
It’s a battle, and ultimate happiness is the spoils if successful.
You cannot give away your happiness to someone. It is always a futile attempt to bring happiness to someone else.
You can’t be successtul in the long run. Successful partners share there individual happiness with each other
not use, or drain the others happiness or attempt to live on the others happiness.
If you rely on yourself for true happiness, and not on others to “make you” happy you will never be sad.
Each person is unique and different than anyone else. I am accepted by many for being uniqueness
and shunned by others. Never take it personal, my love is mine, it’s never given away to anyone only shared.
Those who don’t or can’t accept my uniqueness’s can’t share my love, because it will be constantly judged
based on my uniqueness and their inability to accept me for who I am.
If you get mad at someone you can walk away or get mad back and retaliate. How do you do that if, the major issue that is making you mad, sad or afraid is how your preserve or judge yourself?
You can’t run away or retaliate, right?
Wrong!!!! We do it to our self’s all the time!
Excerpts from D Miguel Ruiz “The Mastery of Love”