Monogamy is 'illegitimate' thus cheating is 'nonsense'
"I understand the definition of "cheating". My position is that the concept of cheating is flawed because agreements concerning one's body transfer control of one's body to someone else, and that this is illegitimate. So, if that's right, cheating is nonsense."
I don't know how any of you feel but I personally would not be keen to become involved with someone that considers 'making agreements' an exercise in controlling others. :o/
I lay out a situation:
Me: My partner says to me 'in order for us to keep dating, you'll need to do x' and I say 'okay, I'll do x'. In the example I gave x was 'sleep with these particular people' but it could have easily been 'don't sleep with other people'.
There's been a request made and I've agreed to the request. If I agree to the request and then don't abide by it, my partner would have reason to be upset.
He reacts:
Him: But I'm confused, because I feel like you've completely re-described the case .... What you've written here is something totally different from that. It's an ultimatum. And, it's totally an agreement. And, it's a perfect example of the sort of thing I find highly problematic and generally objectionable. It shows a lack of respect for the agency of one's partner and the ability of one's partner to control her own body and decide for herself who she dates.
Christ, who knew that asking a partner to do/not do something and them accepting is showing a 'highly problematic and generally objectionable' lack of respect for your partner?
source @ okcupid
Some of the things he was saying seemed reasonable enough but that whole attitude leaves me baffled.
I don't know how any of you feel but I personally would not be keen to become involved with someone that considers 'making agreements' an exercise in controlling others. :o/
I lay out a situation:
Me: My partner says to me 'in order for us to keep dating, you'll need to do x' and I say 'okay, I'll do x'. In the example I gave x was 'sleep with these particular people' but it could have easily been 'don't sleep with other people'.
There's been a request made and I've agreed to the request. If I agree to the request and then don't abide by it, my partner would have reason to be upset.
He reacts:
Him: But I'm confused, because I feel like you've completely re-described the case .... What you've written here is something totally different from that. It's an ultimatum. And, it's totally an agreement. And, it's a perfect example of the sort of thing I find highly problematic and generally objectionable. It shows a lack of respect for the agency of one's partner and the ability of one's partner to control her own body and decide for herself who she dates.
Christ, who knew that asking a partner to do/not do something and them accepting is showing a 'highly problematic and generally objectionable' lack of respect for your partner?
source @ okcupid
Some of the things he was saying seemed reasonable enough but that whole attitude leaves me baffled.