My experience has taught me the following. Anyone who wears a button saying "Bi, Poly, Kinky and still not sleeping with you"? Is most likely a person that is ugly and you do not want to sleep with.
Wait, waving off the clueless people who think that "Poly & Bi = Sleep with anything that has a pulse" is a display of audacity?
You do realize that your statement to that effect is dangerously close to the attitude that prompts some people to use that icon in the first place: "Hey you, since you are poly and bi of course that means you are a whore with no standards. I know that you want to give me a blow job and let me fuck you."
And when the woman says no, it gets followed up with, "You're a castrating bitch [or fill in your favorite degrading, sexist insult], you said you were poly and bi!"
I know that when a lady does not want to sleep with me I invariably make angry indignant British noises(it sounds similar to "roff roff roff" and is much easier when you have a big beard) and say something like, "The nerve of that trollop!"
I thought that was how one reacted. Oh well, live and learn.
No, not offended at all. But I feel tempted to tell some of these people (man, woman or any gender for that matter) that they should not flatter themselves and not to take my kindness as a sign of weakness or that I want to sleep with them. Just don't sleep with someone, don't announce it to the whole world.
The point of the button, which you have probably missed, would be to counteract the prejudice that poly, bi, and kinky people will sleep with everyone.
The idea that somehow someone wearing that button is "flattering themselves" instead of making a supposedly-humorous riposte to an unfortunate cultural stereotype seems a bit solipsistic.
I think the buttons are a little silly, but I understand why people might find them a helpful way of making a statement about those stereotypes.
1) I have never, ever, gotten the impression that this is an anti-genderqueer whatever statement. It's more of a way to call attention to your own sexuality.
2) The vast majority of the population doesn't want to sleep with someone who is poly, bi, and/or kinky. If they did, being one of those people wouldn't be unusual.
3) It's oddly presumptuous to believe that everyone around you at all times knows about and/or is thinking about your personal sexual proclivities. We're not. Most of us have better things to do, like try and plot our daily quests.
4) Even if I am aware of your particular sexuality and thinking about it at the time, you are snarkily answering a question I didn't ask and have no intention of asking. See my comment below.
5) And finally, and most nastily, have you really been deluged with that many requests that you feel a button is necessary? Most people, regardless of attractiveness, don't need to turn people down.
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You do realize that your statement to that effect is dangerously close to the attitude that prompts some people to use that icon in the first place: "Hey you, since you are poly and bi of course that means you are a whore with no standards. I know that you want to give me a blow job and let me fuck you."
And when the woman says no, it gets followed up with, "You're a castrating bitch [or fill in your favorite degrading, sexist insult], you said you were poly and bi!"
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I thought that was how one reacted. Oh well, live and learn.
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Or are you just insulted by the idea of people not wanting to sleep with you?
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The idea that somehow someone wearing that button is "flattering themselves" instead of making a supposedly-humorous riposte to an unfortunate cultural stereotype seems a bit solipsistic.
I think the buttons are a little silly, but I understand why people might find them a helpful way of making a statement about those stereotypes.
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1) I have never, ever, gotten the impression that this is an anti-genderqueer whatever statement. It's more of a way to call attention to your own sexuality.
2) The vast majority of the population doesn't want to sleep with someone who is poly, bi, and/or kinky. If they did, being one of those people wouldn't be unusual.
3) It's oddly presumptuous to believe that everyone around you at all times knows about and/or is thinking about your personal sexual proclivities. We're not. Most of us have better things to do, like try and plot our daily quests.
4) Even if I am aware of your particular sexuality and thinking about it at the time, you are snarkily answering a question I didn't ask and have no intention of asking. See my comment below.
5) And finally, and most nastily, have you really been deluged with that many requests that you feel a button is necessary? Most people, regardless of attractiveness, don't need to turn people down.
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4) How nice that you weren't going to ask. However, some people definitely were going to.
5) Really? Really?? You think most people never get offers they don't want? Hell, I got my latest one less than an hour ago.
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